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123456s
Mar 31, 2013, 01:56 PM
Please help met husband divorced mtle three times on phone but no witness but we have done only nikah not rukhsati can we remarry again?this is his choice
smkanand
Apr 1, 2013, 01:02 AM
You mean he said talaq thrice on phone but no one is witness and now he wants to remarry you. Did he realize his mistake? Rukhsati is not very important. According to islam nikah = marriage and rukhsati is bride being send with groom to her new home with her parents permission. Now some people throw huge parties for rukhsati but the thing is you guys are married. I guess you mean that you guys don't have sex after nikah. Correct me if I'm wrong. Even in that case, you guys are married with all customs and rules. So the question is remarrying? First of all if there is no witness, why don't you guys solve the matter mutually. And get remarried. And second, you guys can remarry if you don not have rukhsati.
123456s
Apr 1, 2013, 04:37 AM
Asalam alikum
I want to know urgently my husband divorced me three times once on phone saying talak and before six months he said you r free from my life but he aplogised me by saying he didn't mean it and than before giving me this last time divorce on phone before one day he said you are divorced
And than he on phone without any witness he said to me talak three times once I want to know now he feels he did mistake can we remarry because we still didn't did rukhsati and never had sex
Please let me know
123456s
Apr 1, 2013, 04:42 AM
Yes we never had sex
But he divorced me on phone three times in one sentence using talak word and before one day he called me and give me divorce he when get angry he says you are divorced but still no rukhsati and he says he did mistake and want to return back
smkanand
Apr 1, 2013, 05:42 AM
Really he get angry? What if he get angry again and again do same thing and again feel sorry. You will get into more trouble. I would suggest to think carefully about this person. Do you really want to be with someone who can easily trough you out. You know the real problem is the talaq by just 3 words. So please think again because shariat laws are complicated. Talk to him and take promise from him not to do same mistake again. You only know the answer, why he got so much angry, does he has valid reason to give you talaq because it's very delicate matter. But if you decided to be with him then, I think since Rukhsat means consummate (completing marriage with sex) and you haven't done it. Hence you should not be consider married. I guess no need to remarry because to remarry there are other even more complicated rules. I think you guys should do ruksati with your parents blessings. Good luck.
123456s
Apr 1, 2013, 05:50 AM
Thanks dear may Allah bless you
smkanand
Apr 1, 2013, 05:56 AM
Thanks dear may Allah bless you
One more thing, both of you do not share or disclosed this incident to any other person. Talk to your husband openly and take promise from him. Good luck.
123456s
Apr 1, 2013, 07:26 AM
Dear good listener
May be I did mistake I have disclosed this thing in front of everyone in my family and also in his family they know what their son has did.but I don't think so I did mistake to inform my family because I wasn't knowing he will come back to me all I know relationship of husband and wife is not a game or a job like or dislike and reject or accept anytime
Can I ask you how should go to his family if they know that I was divorced from their son and married him again?do you think I should only look at my husband feelings or just look around what society will say?
smkanand
Apr 1, 2013, 08:39 AM
society will say 100s of things even if you get married this guy and even if you don't. Thing is since your family know and I think they wish you to get married happily with him, you should go ahead with confidence. Since he does admitted his mistake and want to be with you, both of you talk face to face, share your thoughts and face the family and society together. I'm sure no one can raise against you if both you and him are together and your and his family supporting this. You don't have to feel ashmed or afraid to face his family because it is between 2 of you and it was a misunderstanding. Again I think a marriage is incomplete without sex, so you are not been completely married to him. Some sect of islam consider rukhsita equally important to nikah. Hence, it should not be taken in consideration that he said to you. You have not committed any sin if you remarry him. Hence, you should face people with confidence and faith. Important thing is you both love each other. I don't know which country you reside but you can do a civil marriage with him alongside traditional marriage, to make this bond even stronger.
123456s
Apr 1, 2013, 11:14 AM
I live in UAE
Thanks slot you really support too much and I Judy want to know is your questions are according to Islam