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AngelHeaven
Mar 30, 2013, 03:54 AM
I dated this guy from a different state, and he used to come to see me a lot. We had a beautiful relationship , and a love story that everyone knew about. This beautiful relationship led up to a proposal. Suddenly I wanted to go visit him and I told him I was arriving but apparently I was lying and I wasn't there. He got upset over it a little and then got over it.

Further on I noticed he was changing, and selfish, and a two faced. I was trying to give all the love I can to him, and wanting to see his smile , and I wasn't get much in return but making love through the phone. Then he said we should take it easy and be friends until we see where life takes us. I was surprised that he said that to me, I said maybe I should make it up by surprising him with a REAL visit. I told him I was going to come, and I showed him the ticket. He was happy but said I didn't have to come, and he kept hurting me for me to forget about "us".

I wouldn't let go, and he made me feel confused as well because he always called and asked about me. Then I got sick of it that all he wants is call me whenever he wants to, and wants to act as a friend but make love with him. I lied to him to see how he would react. I told him I did something sexual with another guy. He believed me, hung up the phone on me. I could now understand he still has feelings for me and that's why he got mad.

Now he texted me saying stay away from me. He won't pick, or talk to me. I'm still supposed to go on flight soon, and I don't know if I should go anymore. Help please in this broken love story?

smkanand
Mar 30, 2013, 04:36 AM
You should go. Because you lied to him to test him and now you have to say truth. Or he will live with a lie. He had made his opinion on what you told him, so you have to tell him facts. I think you should see him and let both of you talk face to face and see where this thing go.

joypulv
Mar 30, 2013, 04:38 AM
Don't go.
You have made at least 2 huge mistakes, both of them LYING.
I don't blame him for being confused and not wanting you to go.
In fact, I find your lies very confusing myself, and think you need some serious help before you get involved with another man.
"Apparently I was lying?" Are you not in control of your own actions?
THEN you tell a horrible lie just to see if he gets upset?
Please, get professional help.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 30, 2013, 04:42 AM
He should have stopped talking after you lied about coming, what part of your lied and he can not trust you, you hurt him and did a awful thing.

He needs to run from you as fast as he can, since you can't seem to understand what you did was so wrong

AngelHeaven
Mar 30, 2013, 09:01 AM
You guys have to understand that I as well bared so much with this guy. He hurt me in awful ways as well, he had sex while we were in a relationship before I even lied and that is why I lied because I didn't want to see him after what he did. I still forgave and gave him so many chances and he knew how much I loved him. That's why he forgave my lie the first time because he never saw anyone loving so much like I did to him.

smkanand
Mar 30, 2013, 12:02 PM
You guys have to understand that I as well bared so much with this guy. He hurt me in awful ways as well, he had sex while we were in a relationship before I even lied and that is why I lied because I didn't want to see him after what he did. I still forgave and gave him so many chances and he knew how much I loved him. That's why he forgave my lie the first time because he never saw anyone loving so much like I did to him.

Understand, so what do you want? Its up to you. But even if you are ending it, end it with truth. Good luck.

talaniman
Mar 30, 2013, 01:18 PM
He has already ended this and you should let it go and move on with your life, and stay out of his. Do better next time with a better partner.