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B-Luv
Mar 20, 2007, 02:41 PM
My dad said I don't care! But I do I just can't show it? He gets mad for everything. And its hard for me to trust. I want to care but how?:mad:
kristynn
Mar 20, 2007, 03:17 PM
To care for what?
To care about you father?
To trust what? Your father?
Why does your father get mad?
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B-Luv
Mar 22, 2007, 02:28 PM
Well the story is that my dad when I was little ready my dairy I use to write in every single day to GOD. And From that very day on he just kept on doing the same things like reading my emails, myspace, text, just about anything he can get his hands on of mine. I just stop trusting him. He gets mad at the fact that I'll talk to every one else but him. Trust I believe is earned and as fast as you can earn it you can loose it? Am I Rigt? I trully love my dad he has always been there for me non like my mother. She left me and my sibblings. But I want to care but its hard. I want to know how to care and trust again.
kristynn
Mar 23, 2007, 04:22 PM
The only way to know if you can trust your father again is to trust him. It's hard, but I believe there's no other way.
You're definitely right when you say that trust is earned, but also once lost, it's hard to earn it back.
In this case, it's your father you're talking about. You seem to be young; I don't know how old you are. You sure love him and respect him, but he should also know that you need some privacy as well. If he doesn't understand this, it means that he doesn't trust you. You should talk to him about this. Tell him you have nothing to hide, but you need some privacy.
I believe that the reason you talk to everyone else but your father is because you don't trust him, right? Yet, if you trust other people and if you would try (hard) to trust your father again, you may succeed. Just try...
ncgirl_21
Mar 28, 2007, 10:19 PM
Do you believe in 2nd chances? Try and give your dad a 2nd chance, one way to try and do that is by talking to him about why he's doing those things it could be that he's a concerned parent and just doesn't want you getting into anything you shouldn't, so try to regain trust in him by talking to him.
B-Luv
Apr 2, 2007, 02:41 PM
Why? Why does he have to worry he should trust his daughter. He shouldn't have to snoop in his own daughters business. If wants to know what's going on in my life then should ask me! I want to trust him but if he can't trust me then what makes him think I can trust him?
louie1
Apr 2, 2007, 02:58 PM
It is so very hard with daughters to let go and let them grow up,giving them their own space etc. your dad doesn't mean to be intrusive or uncaring in fact quite the opposite he is just so scared that you will get yourself into trouble. A father / daughter relationship is so valuable and he is so scared of losing you maybe you need to let him know calmly how this is making you feel as pound to a penny he wouldn't wish to hurt you for the world!