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SRQ scarlett
Mar 27, 2013, 10:59 AM
I'm in love, I'm infatuated, the 3 words are on the tip of my tongue every moment that I spend with my new boyfriend. He is everything I ever wanted and what I didn't know I wanted. We show our love for each other by our actions and communicating how happy we make each other. Of course there is a "but", it is really soon. We spend a lot of time together so it feels like longer... But its not. I am not the needy type and I don't expect him to say it this soon.

But I am beginning to have a hard time expressing my feelings to him cause I am focusing so much on not adding the pressure of "I love you" to my new relationship. I don't want him to think I am losing interest cause of my lack of communication, however the same old phrases are beginning to sound forced cause I'm not saying what's really on my mind. I'm not afraid of being the first to say it, I just don't want to say in the new phase, I want to really mean it for life. He is a life long keeper and I don't want to send the wrong message.

Any tips for communicating love with out the 3 LITTLE words?

Homegirl 50
Mar 27, 2013, 11:19 AM
How old are you and how long have you been dating this guy? You are obviously happy and infatuated but that does not mean love. If you think it is too soon to say, don't!
You continue to enjoy each other's company, treat him with respect. Actions say what words can't.

SRQ scarlett
Mar 27, 2013, 11:29 AM
I'm 28 and he is 32, we both are divorced and each have two kids around the same age. We met on a dating site a month ago and the connection has been natural and effortless. I don't want to say I love you yet, I want to know I know I mean it first. I just need to figure out how to stop saying that in my head when I'm with him, otherwise it will come out and the wrong time.

Homegirl 50
Mar 27, 2013, 11:52 AM
A month is soon. You just tell yourself that you know this is way too soon and don't say it. You have two kids. You don't want to start something that is just your head talking. How long have you been divorced?

JudyKayTee
Mar 27, 2013, 02:51 PM
I agree that it's way to soon - how long has each of you been divorced?

I find actions speak louder than words - my partner knows I love him more by how I act toward him than the words I say.

talaniman
Mar 27, 2013, 08:10 PM
Don't get so carried away, its only been a month.