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NinaGL
Mar 11, 2013, 11:45 AM
I'm an 18 year old girl and I graduated from high school last year (August 2012) and I've been doing nothing since then because my family and I were supposed to move to Texas and I didn't apply to any college because of that, now that it's been almost a year and we haven't moved, I've talked with my parents and they said that they could wait for me to finish college and then move, now here come my problem:

This college I may apply too is for rich kids meaning above my social and money status, I'll have to apply for a scholarship but I'm fine with it, my problem is that I may not fit in! I've always been a shy girl and I didn't go out really much in high school, there's always a serious expression on my face and I'm really quiet, it's hard to make new friendships and is going to be more difficult if I go to a college like that, it'll be like going to an alternative universe, all alone with no friends, yeah it sounds exciting but not on the social part.

I feel like that as soon as I put a foot on that school everyone's going to look down on me, I'm really scared and insecure about myself, I'm always thinking that maybe if I lose weight or make an effort to style my hair better I might fit in but I don't know.

So that's my problem I'm insecure about myself and being the new kid on a school that is out of my league

talaniman
Mar 11, 2013, 02:26 PM
Apply for the scholarship and be accepted before you worry about anything else. You are scaring yourself on what ifs so stop that. First things first. Lose weight, buy new clothes and getting a makeover are things you can do with mom, and has nothing to do with school. You are focused on the wrong things.

You should be focused on a scholarship, and good grades for a good job, and a whole lot less on a social life in a school you haven't been accepted at yet.

Homegirl 50
Mar 11, 2013, 02:41 PM
If you are worried about fitting in at this particular school, why are you applying there? You have not applied yet so stop getting yourself worked up over something that has not happened.

Alty
Mar 11, 2013, 02:54 PM
College is very different from high school. In high school it's all about cliques, fitting in. In college that really doesn't matter. The majority of the people that are in college are there to study, to get a degree. They won't care what you look like, or how shy you are. They're all too busy studying, and worrying about their grades.

That should be your focus as well.

mmhdcat
Mar 26, 2013, 07:18 PM
If you go to this college, then it's because there was something there that you wanted and liked that other colleges didn't have. I think doing a college visit will really help you get an idea about the kinds of people you will encounter instead of reading what's online or in a brochure. Like other people said, college is very different from high school and you're going to be surrounded by a lot of people who share similar interests. Plus, if you're getting into a college where the majority of people who are accepted come from rich families, then that says a lot about your rigor and dedication to be able to compete with these other kids. I'm sure once you get to college, you'll find that not that many people look down on you. Best of luck with your decisions :)