My ex girlfriend of 3 years followed me to college and then broke up with me after the first two months of being there. Her reason for breaking up with me was simply she didn't feel the same as she used to. I am a year older than she is so I had a full year at school without her. I never cheated on her, rarely went out partying, and drove home every weekend I had the chance to see her.

The only problem is I am so in love with this girl and don't know how to handle the situation. For the past 3 years she has been my best friend and now she seems like she could careless about me. I have focused all of my time into my school work and going to the gym while she has been out partying and sneaking into bars.

I am transferring to a better university this fall but she is on my mind constantly. I want another chance but I heard she is starting to see someone else. I don't know how to deal with seeing her with another guy and I also don't know if I should just try to forget about her when I transfer.

Also its been about 4 and a half months since we broke up

You have issues moving on. I know it has been 4 and a half months, but that's still a pretty long time for a breakup. You need to consider that you're in an entirely different environment than she is. You're going to be transferring to a University, which will mean you're going to be swamped in schoolwork and research you know. I myself am a university student, and I barely have time to myself let alone time to chase after relationships.

The sooner you accept that you're two very different people now, the better it will be on you and on her. You probably only are thinking about her because new is out that she's seeing someone else. Focus your time wisely on your studies and on your own emotional health instead of ruminating about someone who doesn't seem to care about you.

Hope this helps.

Control the things you can control and don't worry about the things you can't control. In other words, she has moved on. Now you can continue hoping and wish and dreaming, but where does that leave you in the end? Alone and not moving your life forward. She is well within her right to decide that you were not the man for her.

Going to the gym and concentrating on your school work is a good move. Do other things to keep your mind active. We have all been through this and have survived. You will to.

You don't say how it is that you see her almost every day, but you MUST avoid seeing her at all, or your suffering will last a lot longer.

You need more time to build a life without her, and changing schools will help a lot. Its normal to want another chance after being dumped, and seeing her a lot, and hearing about her business through the grapevine, but these things should be avoided.

In time it will get better if you cut contact and focus on YOU.