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fentonB
Mar 4, 2013, 01:55 AM
Ok me and my girlfriend have been together 4 years now. We have a 1 year old daughter together. We just recently took some time apart from each other after she kind of asked me to move out and give her a little space. But now we're back dating trying to work things out. She told me she wanted more affection/ for me to be more loving and for us to connect more. I've recently been trying to take her out whenever we can get a sitter, and show her more affection, kisses hugs, trying to cuddle with her, constantly telling her she's beautiful, that I love her and miss her. But Im always the one to initiate everything. Our dates,sex, being affectionate, sweet text messages. It's like it's a one way street. I romance her but sometimes she blows me off. I just feel like since we don't live together shouldn't she miss me more when we're spending time together? Im just not sure what to do. I mentioned how I was feeling to her and she told me I'm over reacting or over thinking everything. I feel like my concern and needs are valid. Please help.

LittleBlackKat
Mar 4, 2013, 09:46 PM
She sounds a tad uncertain about what she wants. You and your girlfriend need to be more clear regarding what you both want, how you want it, etc. Communication is key here, but also respect. It sounds like she lacks some for you.

If you go back and re-read the title of your question/post, you will see that you ironically pretty much answered your own question. She obviously doesn't appreciate the efforts you are putting in. It is amazing that you listened to her, opened up, and put her wishes fully into action, but when she is not appreciating this or willing to do the same for you, then it is time to gather your thoughts and guts and talk it out.

This is my best honest advice, I hope this helped.