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Used2012
Mar 3, 2013, 12:03 PM
My best friend died. After 4 months her husband contacted me and we started being involved and had great times I noticed him starting to pull away. After 8 months he ended it saying it was the best thing to do. I am so in love with him and he would like to remain friends and does not want me to move away. How do I get through this?

fredg
Mar 3, 2013, 01:24 PM
If you want to move, and think that is the best thing to do, then do it. He doesn't want a love relationship with you, as you said. I do know that it's sometimes hard to be "just friends" with someon you really love... tried it, and it didn't work for me.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

teacherjenn4
Mar 3, 2013, 02:51 PM
He is still going through a grieving process. You should be his friend if you can and keep in contact with him. When he's ready, he knows where to contact you.

talaniman
Mar 3, 2013, 05:47 PM
I think he mistook gratitude for love and corrected himself. I imagine you both helped each other through a very difficult time. For now I think you go it alone as you heal from your own loss. He will understand, and so will you eventually and then being friends again may be possible. For now though trying to stay friends will be a torture.

Focus on building a life that you enjoy with family, new friends and activities that you like to keep you busy with other things besides missing what you had.