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this21
Feb 28, 2013, 01:26 AM
4 year ugly custody battle for my daughter her father wins full custody after years of slander,lies, manipulation and betrayal! I am 23 of course I have had my faults of course Imade mistakes but I'm a great motheri take care of two kids currently that aren't my biological children but still I'm fully involved in their education active in their schooling and very attentive to tlc as well as strive to ensure they succeed. I also have a six month old I am very attentive loving and care for so why take my first my hero my baby girl away from me perminate? He even put a restraining order on me my daughter the only protected party in this matter! What about her best interest that her father is legitimatly disregarding? Long story short if I sign over my parental rights can my daughters father still continue collecting child support from me?

smoothy
Feb 28, 2013, 11:10 AM
You can't sign over rights any more than a father can to get out of the obligation of paying child support.

The only way your obligation would end is if an adoption takes place.

I find it reassuring when I see child support orders against other than men... who are usually the ones that get the short end of the stick in custody disputes.

Word of advice... get over it... there are two sides to every story... and his was more convincing than yours to an impartial judge..

Badmouthing a child's other parent is also not in the best interest of the child... EVER.

this21
Feb 28, 2013, 05:16 PM
Your right there are two sides to every story and a biased opinion would be legitimate seeing as how you don't know both sides right? Pardon me if I came off a bit hostile towards your comment. The best interest of my daughter stability in the love and nurture of both parents, disclosing little info to get an honest answer on this website has nothing to do with my daughters best interest but everything to with her best interest in mind and at heart while trying to make this life changing decision . NO I would never give up on fighting but then again there's two sides to every story right ?

ScottGem
Feb 28, 2013, 05:37 PM
All we know is that, despite your statements of how good a mother you are and how much the father lied and manipulated things, a judge decided the father should get custody AND support. We have to wonder about that.

And you come here and instead of asking how to fight for your right to your child, you ask how to get out of paying support.

As noted you can't get out of paying support and you can't just give up your rights.

Mcsap9213
Feb 28, 2013, 06:04 PM
Since we have only heard your side but the judge has heard BOTH sides and made a ruling...

this21
Mar 1, 2013, 12:36 AM
The support was not court ordered. In some cases the parent who has the child in common 52% of the time can receive state assistance if they chose to receive cash assistance the parent who has the child less than will be obligated to pay that assistance back . Yes that's how it should be if the absent parent is non compliant and neglating their responsibility as parent by providing and caring for their child/children. A month ago we had joint custody yet he still was receiving assistance therefore being the reason I ask. Now your all questioning what happened... DV 4... unbelievable... but true and due no response filed against his petition on my behalf the judge granted it. I thought I could verbally tell my side I was wrong!

Alty
Mar 1, 2013, 12:52 AM
Long story short if I sign over my parental rights can my daughters father still continue collecting child support from me?

Long story short, your question was answered. All the "I'm a great mother, I'm so wonderful, I love my kids, I take care of my kids, I was wronged" was for your benefit, not ours. If it makes you feel better to post those things, great, I hope it worked, but your question, as posted above, was answered. You can't sign over your parental rights, it's not possible. The only way you can give up your parental rights is to clear the way for an adoption.

If you have another question, ask. But your question was answered, that's the law, and no sob story will change it.

Good luck.

ScottGem
Mar 1, 2013, 04:09 AM
I thought I could verbally tell my side I was wrong!

Yes you thought wrong. A judge doesn't want to hear "this is my side". A judge wants evidence, testimony, proof so they can make a judgment. The father apparently presented enough evidence and you presented no proof to contradict that evidence so the judge ruled for the father.

Now learn your lesson, get a lawyer or legal advisor. Prepare a PROPER case, gather PROPER evidence and either appeal or wait until you can file for a modification.