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jeenajdn
Feb 27, 2013, 05:24 PM
Well, my best friend liked me for about a year now. He has liked other people too, but he liked me as well and I was dating someone all through that time, so I kept telling him I love my boyfriend.

I used to tell my friend everything about my relationship. After a point, my boyfriend and I broke up, so my friend tried again, this time I gave in :( I feel terrible... I liked him, but I was not over my boyfriend so we decided to give me time. So we stopped talking too much.

Then one day, I told him I'm not over my ex, and that I couldn't have anything with him. Now, he is going wild. He's saying stuff like nothing was worth it, and I'm getting a little scared. I don't want to deal with him. I know I'm being mean, but I've always made myself clear... very clear!!

I love my ex. I don't want a new boyfriend. Please tell him how to handle this boy? I'm scared he's going to turn mean.
Help me please, friends?

Homegirl 50
Feb 27, 2013, 05:39 PM
Turn mean how? Tell him to leave you alone.

Wondergirl
Feb 27, 2013, 05:43 PM
What does this mean? --

"this time I gave in"

jeenajdn
Feb 27, 2013, 08:18 PM
I just got a txt from him about how hurt he feels... I mean, he knew all along about my boyfriend...
But I gave him a chance with me...
What I'm scared about is, if I hurt him...
I don want to handle him.. I'm in love with my ex, if my ex comes back to me, I'll take him back..
That's my frame of mind.

That's okay right? What should I do if my friend keeps saying things about me? About how I've hurt him? I know I've hurt him, he's so immature I think, he's throwing it in my face..

How should I handle him?
Also, he gave me a ring, which I never wore, and I want to return..
But never got a chance to because he's been out of town.

Should I be sorry? Or just blankly tell him to leave me alone?

Homegirl 50
Feb 28, 2013, 08:39 AM
You tell him you don't want to be with him, give him his ring back and leave him alone.

jeenajdn
Feb 28, 2013, 10:04 AM
Thank you so much home girl. It definitely feels like the right thing to do.
Thank you. I will give him his ring back the next time I meet him for sure

Also,my ex has been contacting me a lot the past two three days.. I'm not sure he wants to get back with me. We broke up because long distance was not working out.
He's coming back from his studies next month for good.. and he told me.. after no contact for more than a month.

Will he come back to me? Why is he contacting me so much now?

Homegirl 50
Feb 28, 2013, 12:35 PM
I don't know. That is something you'll have to ask him. Maybe with him coming back you can have a normal relationship.

jeenajdn
Feb 28, 2013, 10:33 PM
I don't know. That is something you'll have to ask him. maybe with him coming back you can have a normal relationship.

True.. thank you home girl :) you're an angel for reading my looong posts!

ArmstrongMiller
Mar 1, 2013, 12:49 AM
Leave him alone.

jeenajdn
Mar 1, 2013, 11:11 AM
Yes I will.. I've told him about how I want to be left alone and how its better for us.. But I'll miss him as my best friend. Let's see how everything goes..