We have been dating for 5yr. He constantly watches porn we have sex more or less every day I send him naughty pictures and have even suggested watching porn together but he didn't seem interested. He has specifics that he likes e.g blondes etc but these preferences are the total opposite to me :/ I have tried to spice things up a little by dressing up etc these ideas all seem to work at the time but yet he still visits numerous porn sites daily... Is it me?

It's not you.

Porn is fantasy, not reality. Porn has nothing to do with the kind of girl you're attracted to, or even what sort of sexual scenarios you want to experience. It's just entertainment, like chick flick or a romance novel is for a girl.

I just don't know what to do I know that guys like theier own wind down time and stuff it just makes me feel rubbish about myself as I already have self confidence issues. He swears he doesn't masturbate to it... But why watch it if not? X

You have sex almost every day. What does that say about how he feels about you and your body. Physically? Sexually? To put it bluntly, he thinks you're attractive, sexy, alluring, arousing, and about 50 other words that I can pull out of a thesaurus. More importantly he loves you, and adores being intimate with you.

Think about your relationship with him.

He isn't looking at it because he's dissatified with you or that he would prefer you to be a blonde/boytype that isn't you. Men like looking at naked women. It doesn't really reflect how they feel about their mate. Honestly anything would do to fill that category. Like a waitress who bends over just the right way to put down your food, or a cool breeze at just the perfect time. Chicken's done! It is how men are wired. We are very sensory oriented creatures.


Also, our porn can be a very personal and private thing. We have a hard time letting anyone know it exists. It is still a bit taboo and we would rather not let anyone know we partake because it can be embarrassing. I am not surprised that your boyfriend is reluctant to share. We are also very conversant on how porn can effect our mate's self-esteem. Which is why we tend to hide it and keep our mouths shut when it comes to it.

So my advice is to spend a day and watch how your mate enjoys you. In the bedroom and out. Look at how he shows you how he feels about you. Stop looking for evidence of his porn. Let him have his privacy when it comes to that outlet. He will continue to do this regardless of what you say. IF you bring it to mind he will just hide it better. Take a moment to realize how satisfied he is with how you look.

I hope this helps.

This has really helped! Thanks :-) I feel lots better now :-) x