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frozenundies
Feb 22, 2013, 04:55 PM
I'm 18, female, from the UK.

Two years ago I associated myself with being bisexual - more just for attention at the time. I liked kissing girls at parties but I wasn't having any serious crushes. But then I started to, but I still liked men so I never thought anything of it, I was bisexual and that was fine with me.

Until last Summer I started following a user on Tumblr after I saw her making out with her girlfriend in gif. And that was it. It was like some weird switched had been flicked in my mind. I woke up the next morning and I was somehow not even remotely attracted to the male celebrities plastered on my walls anymore. I started to have a major freak out and was checking this girl's page frequently.

After that... I just can't seem to figure it out anymore. I thought maybe I just thought I was gay because of the crappy relationships I've had with men. I've tried to make it work with some guys since then, but there is no spark. I had sex with this girl (whole other kettle of fish as to what I should do about her) and it was the best sex I've ever had and I'm crazy about her. I don't know if I'm attracted to men anymore or if it was just the men I've seen or if I'm subconsciously seeking out drama in my life (I do that, sue me) or if I'm just making up loads of excuses. I'm freaking out. Oh god. Am I gay?

talaniman
Feb 22, 2013, 08:39 PM
I would say no, just temporarily distracted by an obsession with this female on the Internet you don't know. A keyboard lesbian if you can dig it. Maybe carried away by your own shtick. Caught up in your own false self description that you made up to be different, and be noticed.

Wrapped up in your own self deception. Relax, curiosity is leading you to explore and experiment. And what's safer than your own keyboard? If you were gay, you would have known it a long time ago.

Alty
Feb 22, 2013, 09:16 PM
Gay, or bi, not hetero. But why are you trying to define yourself? Does it matter? Do you need a title?

Ltf
Feb 22, 2013, 11:59 PM
Gay, or bi, not hetero. But why are you trying to define yourself? Does it matter? Do you need a title?

I think you answer/advice is one of the best advice I have read ;)