My girlfriend has been off her period for nine days and we had an incident of a pathetic mess up, while no actual sex took place we were too close for comfort.here's my concern, we were essentially spooning, when this happened, again making things luckily difficult, she had close tabs on were I was, but neither of us noticed that I had slipped between the slit of my boxers for a second, when I did and became aware and controlled enough to stop it, o pulled away, keep in mind that no penetration took place but proximity did, she is in no way worried about it and neither is my mother, who yes I spoke to about it, but I can't relax, I love this girl and can't live with the idea of ruining her life over mistake like that. She had been off her period for nine days, but her period is sketchy at best as it is, given her lake of body weight and genetics, so she might not get one when she should anyway and instead get cramps given it's usually one or the other, I just need some outside opinion on this because I've had nonstop panic attacks since, and even vomited afterwards, both from stopping myself and fear at what I had done and the potential consequences. Again neither my mother nor my girlfriend are worried and seem confident that everything will be OK. Anyone else's opinion is appreciated, I know there is always a chance NO MATTER what, but I think they have a point given I wasn't very close, I had urinated several times that day and as so any remnant sperm or whatever should have been flushed. Anyway thanks guys, I just need to know if things will be on so I can breathe again, and be as confident as both of the others who know what happened. Thanks!

You're probably OK. Worrying and making yourself sick isn't going to solve anything.

Learn from this and be more careful.

Please do not be too concerned about it. I am pretty sure nothing will happen.

I am glad to see that you feel comfortable enough to communicate this with your mother.

Try not to worry.

Thank you guys for both answers, I definitely have learned from this, it's not a fun experience to be this worried, I'm beginning to relax, any other responses and medical opinions are still welcome and appreciated, otherwise I appreciate the time taken to help me out here, and patience with my typos.