Preemie
Feb 16, 2013, 08:15 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We had a child last year who was born at only 1 pound. It was a really rough time for the both of us. I really wanted to be married before I had a child. I Was on birth control which obviously didn't do it's job. So as much as I wanted to be married first , I didn't want to get married just because I was pregnant.
Now my baby is a year old and it makes me sick that I have a different name from her but I don't want to mention marriage to my boyfriend and ruin the chances of him coming upon it on his own. He has mentioned it before and says he wants to wait until we have money but we're the type of people who are never going to have money. So should I just forget about getting married.
I'm not one of them girls who want to get married just to be married. I believe we will be together forever married or not. But is it fair for me to live my life not ever getting what is important to me. I don't want anything big. What should I do? And please nothing ignorant. I am not a naïve little girl. Just a woman looking for opinions.
Now my baby is a year old and it makes me sick that I have a different name from her but I don't want to mention marriage to my boyfriend and ruin the chances of him coming upon it on his own. He has mentioned it before and says he wants to wait until we have money but we're the type of people who are never going to have money. So should I just forget about getting married.
I'm not one of them girls who want to get married just to be married. I believe we will be together forever married or not. But is it fair for me to live my life not ever getting what is important to me. I don't want anything big. What should I do? And please nothing ignorant. I am not a naïve little girl. Just a woman looking for opinions.