GM15
Feb 15, 2013, 01:25 PM
OK so here's the gist of the situation:
I'm a senior in HS and earlier this year I started to become friends with this awesome girl. We share a few classes and occasionally talk, though not as much as when we had a study hall together. She has every quality that I could want in someone, and I really feel a connection when I'm talking to her. I'm honestly not sure if she shares the same feelings for me or not. I would say I'm not the ugliest or most attractive guy. I've also caught her staring in my direction on a few occasions. The problem here is that she already has a boyfriend. They have been together for 3 years, although they definitely have had their fair share of problems over the years- she would cry a lot last year over their issues. He is now in college, so it seems like they fight a little less since they aren't together all the time, but I'm not entirely sure about this. I really just want to know what action I need to be taking at this point. I see 3 realistic options:
1. Just tell her now. I've thought about writing a letter since this would make it less awkward if she doesn't feel the same way. It would also be tough to get to speak to her alone if I did it in person.
2. Wait until she breaks up or until the end of the year (since I probably wouldn't see her again, I mind as well spill the beans). This would be similar to the first scenario, except that I would try and hold out from creating a problem for her if she did feel the same way and was still in a relationship.
3. Get over her and move on. Obviously this is the toughest of the solutions for me, but if I really don't see a good way to tell her or realize I don't have a shot, I might just have to.
Please just offer me suggestions of what to do. If you have another idea please don't be afraid to share. I've been thinking about this problem for months now and really just don't know how to go about it. Thanks!
I'm a senior in HS and earlier this year I started to become friends with this awesome girl. We share a few classes and occasionally talk, though not as much as when we had a study hall together. She has every quality that I could want in someone, and I really feel a connection when I'm talking to her. I'm honestly not sure if she shares the same feelings for me or not. I would say I'm not the ugliest or most attractive guy. I've also caught her staring in my direction on a few occasions. The problem here is that she already has a boyfriend. They have been together for 3 years, although they definitely have had their fair share of problems over the years- she would cry a lot last year over their issues. He is now in college, so it seems like they fight a little less since they aren't together all the time, but I'm not entirely sure about this. I really just want to know what action I need to be taking at this point. I see 3 realistic options:
1. Just tell her now. I've thought about writing a letter since this would make it less awkward if she doesn't feel the same way. It would also be tough to get to speak to her alone if I did it in person.
2. Wait until she breaks up or until the end of the year (since I probably wouldn't see her again, I mind as well spill the beans). This would be similar to the first scenario, except that I would try and hold out from creating a problem for her if she did feel the same way and was still in a relationship.
3. Get over her and move on. Obviously this is the toughest of the solutions for me, but if I really don't see a good way to tell her or realize I don't have a shot, I might just have to.
Please just offer me suggestions of what to do. If you have another idea please don't be afraid to share. I've been thinking about this problem for months now and really just don't know how to go about it. Thanks!