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itsallokjay
Feb 3, 2013, 09:43 PM
So... I'm shy. He's amazing, she's irrisistable... she's perfect. Blonde, plays dumb-typical 'cute' except-she's not. She pretends to be shy around guys she's into, but has no problem cussing and keeping an attitude with others. Around her girls she's a pottymouth, and 'top b*tch,' but, with him, 'too shy to say anything because I'm innocent,'

He's sweet, nice to everyone, not a player... but... popular... he doesn't care who you are... he's nice. I've been told I have a shot with this boy.. but as soon as blondie takes an interest in him... I'm blown out. She had a crush on my past crush, she went out with him, and broke up with him-i never got to say hi. She is too perfect. I'm not, I get that-and if your going to tell me, I have hard feelings for her, 'big whoop' I know. I hate her. Not just because of him, but because, she's playing him. If she was being herself, and then he was happy, I'll try and be happy for him. But... no, not this way. It hurts... it hurts so much.

Thing is, what can I say or do... to tell this boy... that I won't ditch him? Because I won't. I'll admit, he was my first crush ever-not based off looks. He's just so sweet and caring, he takes time to just, be himself. Jerk yes, cocky yes, huge ego, yes. But, not always, not towards me. I really like him, for who he his, which is why, I can't 'just forget him ' or 'move on' I don't know what he does to be... can't think, can't speak.. can't even sleep. He just... I don't know what it is with him.

What can can I do, to in a way-prove I'm a better option? Because... if I don't do something, and soon... they're already been, like... 'we'll be a couple really soon... ' phase... if I don't do anything, I will be stuck in the friend zone, forever... and ever, and ever, and ever, and ever, and ever. -cuz we're heading off to different schools next year.

Please help me, because I can not give up on him, I can't. I've been told so many times, if blondie didn't exist- he'd see me. But I can't be second forever, not again. Please, please, please, there has to be something.

Homegirl 50
Feb 4, 2013, 04:03 AM
He likes her. That is the thing. It does not matter what you think about her. I'm assuming you are young, maybe middle school. He likes what he sees in her and there will be a guy who will like what he sees in you. You can't make someone like you.

joypulv
Feb 4, 2013, 06:00 AM
Why do you think that your promise not to ditch him is what it takes? It has nothing to do with attraction. "I would be so good to him (or her)" are very common thoughts of people who are obsessed and need a good kick. If you want to make your one big attempt to let him know how you feel, do so, but if it fails, that's IT. You could say that you see that he is falling for her and wish it had been you, smile a little sad smile, and walk away. That way he isn't forced to react, but he knows.

itsallokjay
Feb 4, 2013, 06:23 PM
He likes her. That is the thing. It does not matter what you think about her. I'm assuming you are young, maybe middle school. He likes what he sees in her and there will be a guy who will like what he sees in you. You can't make someone like you.

I've already mentioned this. I don't mean you ask for ways on how he likes me... because I know that just doesn't happen. If I did, I'm sorry, it was a spur of the moment thing, where I panicked, and just-said whatever came to my mind. I know-i should just get over him-and I'm working on that. I'm happy for him, if he really is happy with her.

My only problem is-she's not the girl he thinks she is. That's it. You may tell me, that I'm jealous of her, so I want to see the bad in her... that I want to see things go downhill for her. I know how jealousy works... I don't necessarily want his attention... all I want is to prove to him, that she isn't who she thinks she is. I'm really sorry if I sounded like a deranged 11 year old with obsession issues... but, I did not expect advice on how to 'woo' a guy.

Homegirl 50
Feb 4, 2013, 06:35 PM
It is not your place to show him what kind of girl she is. If she is all you say she is he will find out on his own. You trying to show him anything will only make you look silly. Besides, it's really none of your business.