Hello would really appreciate some thoughts out there... I recently discovered that my husband is once again for the third time on dating sites. Only this time not only is he on dating sites where you can look for local hook ups.

We have been together since high school I was a sophomore and he was a junior. I got married at age 21 and he was 24. We have been through a lot of struggles he was really sick, lost his job and I feel like I have stuck by his side no matter what. But throughout our marriage he has not always been honest about where he goes out when he goes out which is not often. And tells me I need to trust him but gets mad when I ask were he was, and why when he does come its 3 or so in the morning.

Throughout our marriage he has denied that he has not been on these sites and told me that 1 has his friends did it just to be funny. I just discovered that he has been on these sites for most of our marriage. I have checked the dates that he has created these profiles and they are at different times and different months throughout our marriage.

He finally admitted to them because it was obvious I threw it in his face not only did I see that he was really responding to them and responding inappropriate things but he also has given his phone number many times. I feel like I should really give up on our marriage because it has just been too many times and I am always thinking the worst thoughts.

He says that he has not done anything.

He is fairly obvious cheating, so unless he is willing to do counseling and stop going out to 3 in the morning ( no reason to be out late if you are married unless wife is with you)
He has to be willing to be open and not hide things are you need to be separate for a while anyway

If he does not agree to counseling, go yourself. You really need time to gather your thoughts and decide how YOU want to proceed, given he has been doing this through out your marriage, mabe its time for some separation to give your confused feelings some time to be UNconfused without his influence.

I sure wouldn't trust a liar, especially a long time one, especially one that makes no effort to regain trust, that was broken by his own bad behavior.

Thanks for the quick responses you don't know how much I need that... I wish deep inside I can work things out but we tried that and he did it again I am trying to stay.strong but it is so hard it seems easier to just work it out... He has been the only man in my life I feel so confused and emotional... He says he wants me to trust him but how can I when I have given him my paswords and am not afraid of him ever going through my phone... He on the other hand has not ever let me go on his phone... And know that he has done all this on his phone is still not giving me the benefit of the dought by leting me see if his text or history... Am I just being to hopeful that he was being stupid or should I just get on with my life... I feel like it is obvious what I should do.

Would you stay married to your husband if he is having online sex with strange women and exchanging numbers. I am confused I have been with my husband for 11 yrs married 5 he has done this twice before in the past except this time he is giving #... Maybe I am in shock I can't see clear.. I really just wany to think about me for a bit we have no kids I am 27... Would you forgive is this a form of cheating? He once again says things are going to change but I think its gone to far... I don't know what to do

He's cheating on you. If he's doing this, he is probably doing it in real life also. At any rate, cheating is cheating. You can deny it all you want but you know what he is doing. Why not divorce the bum and open your life up so that you will have a chance to meet someone that will treat you right and respect you?