jodar7
Jan 16, 2013, 09:16 AM
I’m 23 and never dated or had a boyfriend in my life. People have said I'm cute/really pretty so I know it isn't my looks, but I have suffered for years from social anxiety. My SA gets particularly worse around men (especially those I find attractive). I’ve been talking to a guy “Kyle” on OKCupid for about a week. I moved cities over the summer and he lives one city away from me at present, and used to live in the city I currently reside in. (Hope that makes sense) Anyway he seems pretty nice and we have stuff in common. I added him to Facebook a few days ago at his request, and we’ve been exchanging messages.
Yesterday he asked me if I could get out of work sometime and grab a coffee with him. I’m busy most of time as I own a small business but I do get the odd day off. My issue is that I’m afraid of meeting up with him and having my social anxiety get in the way. My SA always makes me awkward, shy and I tend to give off the body language of not being interested in a guy even though I am. Plus I can’t flirt for sh*t. I haven’t responded to his message yet, but I’m about to. Is it too soon to confess to him over Facebook that "I’m actually dealing with social anxiety, so if I act shy or a bit off when you meet me don't take it personally"?
I don’t know if we’re compatible as a “couple,” I may just find myself with a new friend (which would be awesome since I don’t have guy friends) But I don’t want to give him the wrong impression right off the bat. I don't want to wait until we've been on X number of dates, because I doubt it would even get that far if I fail to explain my issue.
Yesterday he asked me if I could get out of work sometime and grab a coffee with him. I’m busy most of time as I own a small business but I do get the odd day off. My issue is that I’m afraid of meeting up with him and having my social anxiety get in the way. My SA always makes me awkward, shy and I tend to give off the body language of not being interested in a guy even though I am. Plus I can’t flirt for sh*t. I haven’t responded to his message yet, but I’m about to. Is it too soon to confess to him over Facebook that "I’m actually dealing with social anxiety, so if I act shy or a bit off when you meet me don't take it personally"?
I don’t know if we’re compatible as a “couple,” I may just find myself with a new friend (which would be awesome since I don’t have guy friends) But I don’t want to give him the wrong impression right off the bat. I don't want to wait until we've been on X number of dates, because I doubt it would even get that far if I fail to explain my issue.