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Mommy4life0725
Jan 14, 2013, 03:43 PM
Ok so my daughter is almost 6 months old. My husband is not her biological father. We had previously been together and got back together when I was 11 weeks pregnant. We got remarried several weeks later. He has been there for her since then. He has provided all financial support. The bio dad and I were only together a month. I don't even know where he lives and doesn't have the same job. He wanted an abortion and was sketchy and uninvolved. He would not sign rights over though. We moved states from Idaho to Utah and have not heard a thing from him since I was 11 weeks pregnant. How do we need to go about my husband adopting her.

Mommy4life0725
Jan 14, 2013, 03:48 PM
I should also add that when she was born my husband put himself on the birth certificate which I know is wrong and I am feeling guilty for that decision because if the bio ever shows up my husband will have no rights. I just want to do it right with the adoption so I can stop worrying about 'what if'.

J_9
Jan 14, 2013, 04:32 PM
If she was born while you were married your husband is the legal father.

AK lawyer
Jan 14, 2013, 05:25 PM
Or, even if he wasn't married to you when you daughter was born, if he somehow got on the BC as the father, he is the legal father. Thus there is absolutely nothing to be gained by an adoption.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 14, 2013, 05:33 PM
He can not adopt the child at this point, since by law he is the legal father.

Also had he not put his name on it, since you were married at the birth of the child, in many areas, that makes him legally the father if it is not challeged by the bio father.

I would not worry about it at all, and let it go.

dontknownuthin
Jan 14, 2013, 05:50 PM
I agree with the others - your husband has established himself as the legal father of the child. He's on the birth certificate, lived with you when the child was born and is married to you. If the biological father should choose, he could challenge paternity in court to establish his rights in the future if he chooses to establish paternity and take responsibility for the child.

Unless he does, do nothing. If he does, you can fight it out in court. The longer the guy remains absent, the better for you.