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Loser123
Jan 10, 2013, 07:10 AM
We've been going out for 2 years now and we've been through A LOT together. We've stayed together when he went to uni and when he cheated on me (slept with his flat mate) a year ago. After his mistake everything was kind of okay again and we had a good sex life when I went to see him, but this year I joined him at uni and were now living together, and now he won't even touch me or when I touch him he gets annoyed at me for doing so.

I'm a insecure 5'2 6/8 32dd and he makes me feel like a fat dumpling. He affectionate as in he's very loving on text and always really cuddly and caring in person. I've brought this topic up before with him and how it makes me feel and he gets really upset and starts crying so then I feel like I'm In the wrong. Anyway the other day he went onto his Facebook and had a friend request from one of his exes who had been texting him inappropriately when we first got together, we've always been really open with our passwords to everything but then after the request he changed his password and subsequently I think I'm being a massive idiot.

ALSO he's going in a college exchange to the USA for 4 months and I just really don't know what to do other than curl in a ball and sleep. Someone give me some advice other than, you're the biggest tool alive.

Oliver2011
Jan 10, 2013, 07:29 AM
First change your login name and then you dump this loser. You deserve better than him.

Homegirl 50
Jan 10, 2013, 08:08 AM
I'd say leave the guy. Sounds like he may be cheating again.

odinn7
Jan 10, 2013, 08:30 AM
Your user name here is not really appropriate for you. This situation does not make you a loser at all. It simply makes you human and you made a mistake by trusting someone. It happens.

It sounds to me like he is cheating. It's not the end of the world though. Look at it this way... now is your chance to move on and find someone that will treat you right. Use this as a learning experience and grow from it. Take a little time to get over him and then you will see, you will be better off. I went through this years ago with my wife (now ex). I didn't know how I could be so foolish. I didn't know how I would ever survive. Guess what? I did and I look back on that whole thing I wonder why I ever thought that. Once my head was cleared, I saw how much she was holding me back.

You will see this too... you will do just fine.

slapshot_oi
Jan 10, 2013, 09:25 AM
You need to get out of this relationship and stay single for a while.

Even if your sex life with your boyfriend was great and he was handsome, loyal, and super attracted to you, I would still suggest you leave. Why? Because you're not happy.

Stay single and learn to find happiness by yourself.

joypulv
Jan 12, 2013, 08:11 AM
OP posted this morning about feeling suicidal, and a REAL loser told her to think of all the people in the world who have real problems. I replied 2 minutes after she did (4 hours ago), but she hasn't been back...

Homegirl 50
Jan 12, 2013, 08:29 AM
Hope she is OK and I hope the jerk who responded that way feels good about what he/she did.

odinn7
Jan 12, 2013, 08:51 AM
What a shame that someone would post something like that.

I feel for this girl and what she said. Normally, I am a little harsh with my replies but I think I understood her... been there.

I hope she is OK and that she can realize there are better things to come if she only waits it out.

joypulv
Jan 12, 2013, 11:56 AM
The post disappeared. I thought that wasn't possible...

odinn7
Jan 12, 2013, 11:59 AM
A mod probably pulled it.

talaniman
Jan 13, 2013, 04:02 PM
You aren't a loser as your name implies, but you seem to be surrounded by them. Your boyfriend leaving for a while may turn out to be just the blessing in disquise you need to let you see better more positive people in the world, and you won't have to think sex means happiness.

That's not the attention you need.