Alex93
Dec 30, 2012, 09:40 AM
This question isn't really for me, but trying to get advice to help a family member. Before that I'll try to explain how it first happened.
This all started when my uncle (person that I'm trying to help) got his first car. It was an Acura RSX type-s, he was going to turn 18 in a few months and will get the money from the savings that is mom left him before she passed away to pay it all off then. We are Asian with the typical strict rules of school first. Before turning 18 he had his drivers license already. Few weeks passed by news was that he crashed the car while street racing with someone. The car was totaled and gone. That's when he stared to act strange, no one got contact on him, weed was found on my other uncles car when he was driving it. He started to distance himself away from me and everyone around him. Everyone knew that he was smoking weed. Before turning 18 he told me that he had owed a guy almost $4,000. He had asked me and my brother $400 together to help him it. Dumb like before we gave him the money. When he turned 18 the money that we gave him was paid backup us. The money that his mom saved up was gone in less than 2 weeks. I had heard that there was at least $10,000 or so in there at first. Some of the money went to his car and majority went to debts that he owed. Fast forward a few weeks later, he was still acting the same as before. Now at 18 he has at least 3-4 fines that weren't paid and so was arrested in jail. My oldest uncle bailed him out early because he was the youngest sibling in the family.
Sorry about the long story but I had to get a majority of it out there. Here's my question, how do I help him or get him out of this? Before this happened he was a family type of person and always hung out with my brothers and me. Any advice will be helpful. We also live in the urban areas.
This all started when my uncle (person that I'm trying to help) got his first car. It was an Acura RSX type-s, he was going to turn 18 in a few months and will get the money from the savings that is mom left him before she passed away to pay it all off then. We are Asian with the typical strict rules of school first. Before turning 18 he had his drivers license already. Few weeks passed by news was that he crashed the car while street racing with someone. The car was totaled and gone. That's when he stared to act strange, no one got contact on him, weed was found on my other uncles car when he was driving it. He started to distance himself away from me and everyone around him. Everyone knew that he was smoking weed. Before turning 18 he told me that he had owed a guy almost $4,000. He had asked me and my brother $400 together to help him it. Dumb like before we gave him the money. When he turned 18 the money that we gave him was paid backup us. The money that his mom saved up was gone in less than 2 weeks. I had heard that there was at least $10,000 or so in there at first. Some of the money went to his car and majority went to debts that he owed. Fast forward a few weeks later, he was still acting the same as before. Now at 18 he has at least 3-4 fines that weren't paid and so was arrested in jail. My oldest uncle bailed him out early because he was the youngest sibling in the family.
Sorry about the long story but I had to get a majority of it out there. Here's my question, how do I help him or get him out of this? Before this happened he was a family type of person and always hung out with my brothers and me. Any advice will be helpful. We also live in the urban areas.