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kornkake
Dec 24, 2012, 07:08 AM
Hello,
So over the past year, I've been with two different guys (at two separate times) dated them both, and have had unprotected sex with them both countless times. I have never been on birth control. I still haven't gotten pregnant, and was wondering why? Am I unable to get pregnant?
Thanks.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 24, 2012, 07:12 AM
Sperm never made it to the egg, sex was not timed properly to ovulation.Just lucky ( or unlucky)

Some women get pregnant first time they have sex even with protection, others take a year or more even properly tracking ovulation ( not phone apps)

smoothy
Dec 24, 2012, 10:43 AM
I have to ask why you are actually trying to get pregnant by two different guys in the same year?

jazzas
Dec 25, 2012, 05:48 AM
1) Do not have any sexual contact with someone whose name you don't know, or with whom you have never shared a conversation, class or activity or with whom you have not or would not share a meal. Do not hook-up with strangers even if you think you know who they are based on their friends.

2) Stay away from alcohol and drugs until you are ready to handle them responsibly (usually 17 – 18 years old).

3) If you do partake, do not engage in sexual behavior while intoxicated. Your body will be too disinhibited to know what you really want to do about physical feelings you don't yet understand. You will do things that you wish you hadn't and there is no way to take back what you lose.

4) Do not engage in “sexting”, take pictures of your naked body with your cell phone, send or say anything over the internet that you will not want to see the next morning or that you don't want many other people to see. And note: Oral sex is still sexuality and those oral sex parties, or blow jobs under the bar mitzvah table or on the bus (and subsequent acting out photos) never really work out very well for anyone.

5) Stay away from unsupervised parties. Make friends and actually do things together: see movies, plays, theater; take walks, hikes and go camping; manage your hormones by staying busy, engaging in intense physical or creative activity; participate in community service; take on the political world with social action projects. If you are a teen, you are the country's future. Make yourselves worthy of a great democracy.

6) If and only if you have special feelings about someone, ask them out on a date in a place that is public – movies or restaurants are ideal. Get to know each other by talking to one another.

7) If your increased intimacy leads to feelings, let sexuality emerge as an expression of a special bond. Your body is a temple. Share it with someone who makes your heart soar. When sexuality is an expression of the bonding and attachment between two people, it can be safe, beautiful and very spiritual. When you trust the person with whom you are exploring your feelings, the two of you can learn to own your sexuality in a manner that empowers both of you.

8) There are some great books and web sites that can provide you with facts, and teen savvy straight talk , sobering realities, and solid advice.

9) There is nothing wrong with casual sex between consenting adults, but if you are a teenager you probably aren't mature or experienced enough to handle the complexity of these relationships. Trust me. I have witnessed many tears about these relationships gone wrong in my office. There is nothing wrong with demanding that your first experiences with sexuality be beautiful, consensual and meaningful.

10) Most importantly, sexuality is a weird, unpredictable and random experience. Mistakes have happened to everyone. When they do, find someone you trust and talk, talk, talk about it and learn something. Remember, understanding your sexuality is a process and generally not one without its bumps and that is okay, normal and healthy – as long as you are willing to grow from them.

J_9
Dec 25, 2012, 01:30 PM
Hello,
So over the past year, I've been with two different guys (at two separate times) dated them both, and have had unprotected sex with them both countless times. I have never been on birth control. I still haven't gotten pregnant, and was wondering why? Am I unable to get pregnant?
Thanks.

It's because you are lucky.

Alty
Jan 11, 2013, 03:39 PM
2) Stay away from alcohol and drugs until you are ready to handle them responsibly (usually 17 – 18 years old).

Jazzas, are you seriously condoning alcohol and drug use to underage children? The drinking age in the States is 21, not 17 or 18. Drugs are illegal no matter how old you are. We don't condone illegal activities on this site. Just fyi.

Your bio says that you're a lawyer. Surely you must know the law. :(

JudyKayTee
Jan 11, 2013, 07:09 PM
I disagree and question -

" or blow jobs under the bar mitzvah table ... There is nothing wrong with casual sex between consenting adults ..."

Bar mitzvah? Flippant and I'm not amused. Ou are condoning casual sex as a blanket statement?

I'm confused - you are a lawyer or a clergyperson? You are in the UK but refer to yourself as a Lawyer?