So I've known this guy since middle school and we are now 23, we've always been friends and kept in touch from time to time but never had feelings for him in the past. We started talking again about a year ago just as friends and he was talking to another girl then but stopped several months ago and he starred texting me a lot so we started seeing each other and I've developed real feelings for him. At this point we haven't had sex yet but I feel like it might happen soon and I just want to make sure his feelings are genuine. Usually it's easy for me to figure out what a man really wants but with him I'm so confused. He is a really good person though and he always makes me laugh.

I have 2 kids with my ex and we still live together but are not together and this guy is okay with it and sees me when I have time away from my babies. He texts me a lot and just started telling me he loves me but he won't tell me in person. He kisses me very passionately and he tries to have sex with me all the time and I always say no. I just realized a few weeks ago that I've never been in love before because of the strong feelings I have developed for him. He's on my mind all day everyday and I wait for him to text me I get so excited I've never felt like this about anyone before.

I wanted to include all the details because I'm really confused about the way he really feels. I don't know if he just tells me these things because he wants to have sex with me. He knows I don't have a lot of time as I spend most of it with my children so I don't know what he does or who he has aside from me. I told him I want my situation(ex) to be completely out of the way before I get intimate and commit to somebody. It's just really hard to tell because we've been friends for so long and I want to believe it's genuine and I'm not just someone he's always wanted sexually. Pleassssssse help! =/

There is no way for anyone here to know his true intentions. You would be the best judge of that since you know him and see him. All we can do is guess.

If I had to guess at it, based on what you wrote, it sounds like he is just trying to get sex from you... but like I said, it's just a guess based only on what you wrote.

Why don't you try talking to him a little bit? You say you don't know who he sees or what he does when he's not with you. Have you tried to bring any of this up in conversation?

Yes I have talked to him a little about it, he tells me that he doesn't talk to anyone but me like that. He always answers the phone in front of me and tells his friends I'm with Alyssa so I'm guess he has told them about me which makes me feel good. I just don't want to give it my all and then regret it..

If he won't tell you he loves to your face, then he probably doesn't share the same depth of feeling you have for him. My suggestion would be to continue to take things very slow. Meet with him in person and have an in-depth conversation. Express to him how you feel, ask him directly how he feels, and what he wants out of your relationship. Make sure to really listen to what he tells you. You are in a vulnerable position right now, and your children may be involved, so proceed with caution. The bottom line - listen to your gut.

You have too much baggage, fears and insecurities to have a clear head about this fellow and should stay very cautious of giving your heart or body to anyone at this time. At least wait until you know the lust and initial feel good has been replaced by reality.

Get the rest of your life in order. Then get a better healthier perspective on how he fits into it.

That's true, It's just hard to help the way I'm feeling and never before have I second guessed the way a man feels for me. I did ask him tonight through deep conversation. He told me I make him nervous and it's hard for him to tell me loves me to my face. I told him also stop trying to get touchy feely with me and he apologized. I hope it was sincere but I still don't know. I will just continue to take it extremely slow until I figure out my own situation and what's best for my boys. Thank you for your input.