To start from the beginning. I was with a boy for nearly four years, he cheated and left me for someone else (in january).
To make him jealous I went on sort of a dating app called badoo on my phone to add a few boys on Facebook and to chat to boys my intention was never to see anyone from this.
Anyway, one boy went out of his way to make me laugh so I kept him on my friends list and deleted all the rest and didn't go on the app again after id been on it a few days - deleting everything on it.
The boy I kept, would message me constantly saying I'm beautiful blabla kept wanting to take me out but I turned him down.
I told him to stop messaging me because he got a bit toooo pestery. (this was april)
Then my birthday in may came and he sent me a birthday message bla bla... started talking to him again. Went into the shop where he works (its a main shop that I always go to) so I went over and said hello. I was stunned that he looked quite nice because his pictures weren't all that. So I basically said to him you should ask me out ;)
anywayssss he went on holiday with the boys about two days after I saw him in his work. He said "ill text you when i get home in a week"... a day after this was said I received a text "oh my god' ... and he continued to text me every single day for the rest of his holiday when he was able to.
When he came back, a few days after he took me out to see TED, and a nice meal and then drinks. He was hilarious and made me laugh so much soooo i started to really like him.
A few days after he took me out he went on his travels again for three weeks. Again he messaged me everyday... was so keen telling me he missed me blabla...
I never messaged him first he done all the chasing.
Then stuff happened with the ex on facebook which he quizzed me about so i told him i liked him to reassure him he wasnt a rebound.
As a result he didnt text me back, didnt hear from him for over a week until i (for first time) text him asking what was up ...
anyways
since this..
I have seen him about three/four times on dates and twice I have seen him out for drinks in town and he was all over me infront of all his friends and brother blabla.
So the last time i went out with him was the end on october, we had a really expensive meal etc... he dropped me off at my house and after that I didnt hear from him for a whole day where he just asked how i was...
then i replied, and recieved no reply for another day...
Another day went on and he would text normal then ignore for hours again..
So I got curious and went on the dating app... saw he was online....
for ages. But couldnt text me back.
So when he did text me, I replied with.. too busy chatting girls up on dating apps, ill leave you alone then.
and it goes into an arguement "I don't use it, I rarely go on it... blabla" i replied with "I'm confused, you barely ever see me for the amount of months I've known and been speaking to you, I don't know where I am with you at all and it confuses me"
he replies "I like you I really doooo but I can only apologise for not knowing what I want right now" so i said "not knowing what you want is like saying I don't want you but no one else can have you sort of thing and is leading me on which I don't accept because I am not a mug" an he goea "nooooo you are more to me than that and you should know that really but I have commitment issues not because Im a player or anything. I lied to you, I had one girlfriend, I lost her, she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I lost her - she passed away. Am I better? I'm a lot better than clynical depressive state I was in, but I don't know.. I don't know... I won't lead you on its not in my nature but I do like you"
SO obviously i was "so sorry etc etc" but said "I guess ill have to let you go because I like you and its not good for me to be confused all the time like I have been but I am so sad and will miss you loadsss and I really feel terrible over what you have told me and wish you would have told me sooner and I hope you find the special girl that takes the pain away because you deserve the utmost best and I really do mean that"

anywayyyy...
so the wednesday after this conversation, I go out with the girls (take a few pics with really nice looking boys) and pop them on facebook the next day. baring in mind, I didnt "let him go" because I didnt want him, i really like the guy and wish he wanted me the same but its obviously hurting me.. so i wanted to show him what hes missing whilst trying to move on.
Anyway, after i upload these pictures he likes this girls photos (he knew i was jealous over her) he liked every single one, then put photos on with girls, had conversations with girls all over facebook (theyre his friends though) so i was so angry at this point and carried on with the mind games, this went on for two weeks. I went out one night and he was out the same time, i put pictures up the morning after so he put one up. (HE WAS IN THE SAME PLACE AS ME BUT DIFFERENT TIMING) and wanted me to knowww...
anyway a week after all this i text him wanting to sort it saying "are we going to be friends or what? You just going to carry on annoying me?" and he ws like "no sily of course were friends what do you mean? Sorry, I didn't mean to annoy you x"...then was texting me non stop for nearly two days and was flirty with me too. Then i said hahaha "I've missed youuuu and your naughty jokes" and he took forever to reply, then i replied and got no reply till he sent me a dirty joke about three days later which i replied to and recieved no reply until another few days when i posted a status about going out and he told me his brother works there... was talking to him for a bit that night and he text me the day after as wel for a bit...
asked me how my essay was going blablaa and joking with me having a laugh.
Thennnnnn about four days after he didnt reply to my message on this day.
He text me" hello you, how's it going? Is it busy? x" and a few seconds later again... "waheyyyyy sorry wrong person haha! But how are you? Did the essay get finished? Med tonight is it? x" (med is a sort of club/warehouse that is on every wednesday)... I don't know if this was purposely to wind me up or what... it seemed too fishy to me as its quite hard to mistakely text someone on an iPhone 4... hmmm.
Erm, so I didn't reply and a few days later deleted him off Facebook because all it was doing was annoying me checking his fb all the time.
AND I haven't heard from him since.
This was two weeks ago now.

Its his birthday tomorrow, and I don't know whether to send a message...
Im confused as what to do because half of me thinks he really likes me but his ex is in the way and he doesn't know what to do himself...
but half of me thinks he just doesn't care.
I really do like him though and its weird for me because things ended sooooo out the blue and when it was just going somewhere...

can anyone make sense of this and give me some advice?
really need to sort my head out over this! Am I doing the right thing? Cutting him out or what?

His girlfriend just passed away ( this could be a lie though ) , anyway whether it was a lie or not, it was clear that he currently doesn't know what he wants. It is not a good time to be in relationship with him during this time. Wait until he is sure about himself and what he wants then things you can build your relationship foundations from there