Met up with my EX girlfriend from high school and we chatted for about 1 month When I saw her, I thought she still looked good but I knew I couldn't pursue anything, because we are both married. We became friends on Facebook, then after the month of us chatting she removed me as her friend. She told me that she couldn't continue to be friends with me on Facebook, however. I asked, "why" she said, I can't go into details. Help me understand what this means.

It could be anything from her husband not happy with you two being friends on FB, to her wanting more than a friendly relationship. Either way, you need to leave her alone.

What does your wife say about the Facebook situation? Have you told her?

I think you have your answer now.

She could be thinking that it was inappropriate for her to risk making her husband create a wrong assumption about you and her , plus you are married now so she probably thinking about your wife's opinions also. From your eyes and her eyes your connection with her through Facebook maybe is a 'just friend' connection but from your partner and her partner's eyes there are probabilities that it will be viewed as 'secret love', that was why she pulled back.

What confuses me is that fact that she contacted me and we texted each other all day for a week. Nothing sexual was discussed but we talked for a hood while. If what you're saying us true, wouldn't she have cut me off completely. I would think her husband would have more of a problem with us talking than being friends on a social network site




She could be thinking that it was inappropriate for her to risk making her husband create a wrong assumption about you and her , plus you are married now so she probably thinking about your wife's opinions also. From your eyes and her eyes your connection with her through Facebook maybe is a 'just friend' connection but from your partner and her partner's eyes there are probabilities that it will be viewed as 'secret love', that was why she pulled back.

What confuses me is that fact that she contacted me and we texted each other all day for a week. Nothing sexual was discussed but we talked for a hood while. If what you're saying us true, wouldn't she have cut me off completely. I would think her husband would have more of a problem with us talking than being friends on a social network site

Wow question avoidance alert!!

What does your wife say about your new found friend and Facebook pal? I guess she doesn't have one issue with it since we aren't talking about it.

I really don't think you get any kudos for not talking about anything sexual. What are the issues in your marriage that is making you continue this relationship? Why don't you work on those or get out of the relationship before cheating because obviously you are on the path to cheating right now.

Question Avoidance? First off,I was going to respond to each question because this was my first time back on here since I made the post. Secondly, Are you a person that require s immediate attention, are you jealous I responded to someone else first and not you. Lastly, there are not issues in my marriage, she's became a good friend and that why I made the post.I was looking to get a understanding of why she did what she did.



Wow question avoidance alert!!!

What does your wife say about your new found friend and Facebook pal? I guess she doesn't have one issue with it since we aren't talking about it.

I really don't think you get any kudos for not talking about anything sexual. What are the issues in your marriage that is making you continue this relationship? Why don't you work on those or get out of the relationship before cheating because obviously you are on the path to cheating right now.

Note: I said " I know we couldnt pursue anything because we are both married." Nothing in my post stated that I was having marital issues or wantes to end my marriage Please pay attention before you respond.

Thank You.

Question Avoidance? First off,I was going to respond to each question because this was my first time back on here since I made the post. Secondly, Are you a person that require s immediate attention, are you jealous I responded to someone else first and not you. Lastly, there are not issues in my marriage, she's became a good friend and that why I made the post.I was looking to get a understanding of why she did what she did.

"Secondly, Are you a person that require s immediate attention, are you jealous" Well the case of me liking attention probably could be made, but not in this case. I wouldn't be jealous not at all. If you look at my post you would see that I would never put myself in your situation no matter what the circumstances. There are other reasons this particular situation wouldn't interest me too.

Now back to the question you continue to avoid. What does your wife think about your new found friend, your new text buddy, your new Facebook pal? If she doesn't know then the statement "there are not issues in my marriage" is 100% not true. If you don't plan on cheating physically, because in my mind if you haven't told her you have cheated just not physically, then you should tell her about your text buddy. I would even show her your question on this site. She is obviously the most understand and accepting wife in the world.

Stop speculating so much about this social media turn about as it could be as simple as she has better more important things to do. Only she can know what is going on in her life, but she has chosen not to share them with you.

It no doubt that you're an attention whore, I could see that a mile away. That's neither here nor there. The answer is yes my wifebknow s about all the females friends I have and speak to. That kills your argument huh? Enjoy the rest of your day, you have no reason to respond anymore.



"Secondly, Are you a person that require s immediate attention, are you jealous" Well the case of me liking attention probably could be made, but not in this case. I wouldn't be jealous not at all. If you look at my post you would see that I would never put myself in your situation no matter what the circumstances. There are other reasons why this particular situation wouldn't interest me too.

Now back to the question you continue to avoid. What does your wife think about your new found friend, your new text buddy, your new Facebook pal? If she doesn't know then the statement "there are not issues in my marriage" is 100% not true. If you don't plan on cheating physically, because in my mind if you haven't told her you have cheated just not physically, then you should tell her about your text buddy. I would even show her your question on this site. She is obviously the most understand and accepting wife in the world.

It no doubt that you're an attention whore, I could see that a mile away. That's neither here nor there. The answer is yes my wifebknow s about all the females friends I have and speak to. That kills your argument huh? Enjoy the rest of your day, you have no reason to respond anymore.

"Enjoy the rest of your day, you have no reason to respond anymore." Thank you, but yes I do. You asked a question. If you don't want a response, don't ask a question.

"That kills your argument huh?" Well I guess it does. I personally think it's wonderful that you shared your Facebook, texts, conversations, and your interest in what the ex is thinking with your wife. The only way for us to have a good committed relationship is to be totally open and honest.

My compliments and also my apology if I offended you. That was not my intent. Most people on here want justification for their cheating and I just can't stand cheating.

I guess I can understand your point of view but I just don't like when people jump to conclusions. I'm not the type of guy that cheats, Im actually the type to avoid cheating and confrontation. I was trying to get feedback on what her mind state is/ was for doing what she did. If her husband told her not to be my friend then I would respect that. My confusion was the fact that she continued to talk to me



"Enjoy the rest of your day, you have no reason to respond anymore." Thank you, but yes I do. You asked a question. If you don't want a response, don't ask a question.

"That kills your argument huh?" Well I guess it does. I personally think it's wonderful that you shared your Facebook, texts, conversations, and your interest in what the ex is thinking with your wife. The only way for us to have a good committed relationship is to be totally open and honest.

My compliments and also my apology if I offended you. That was not my intent. Most people on here want justification for their cheating and I just can't stand cheating.

I guess I can understand your point of view but I just don't like when people jump to conclusions. I'm not the type of guy that cheats, Im actually the type to avoid cheating and confrontation. I was trying to get feedback on what her mind state is/ was for doing what she did. If her husband told her not to be my friend then I would respect that. My confusion was the fact that she continued to talk to me

Point taken.

This is going to really upset you but "I'm not the type of guy that cheats" - we have a common bond.

I don't understand people that cheat and never will.

You also have a nice day!

She obviously thinks continuing the communication is a bad idea for what ever reason. I don't understand why you are questioning it.

Pay attention to the previous threads. She still talks to me and wants to talk to me, but just doesn't want to be friends with me in Facebook. It would be wise to read the previous comments before you respond.

Thank You



She obviously thinks continuing the communication is a bad idea for what ever reason. I don't understand why you are questioning it.

Why have you not asked her why you can't be Facebook friends? Seem she doesn't want the friendship that public for whatever reason. Respect it and move on. Why keep obsessing over this? I don't get it.

Pay attention to the previous threads. She still talks to me and wants to talk to me, but just doesn't want to be friends with me in Face book. It would be wise to read the previous comments before you respond.

Thank You
I did. She obviously does not want to continue the communication on face book for whatever reason. Why don't you ask her. What makes you think we would know? What is the problem?

I have asked her and she responded with, I can't tell you. Also, unlike you guys I value friendship so I work hard at finding out things that may hender that. You can move on if you don't want to discuss it. I'm just trying to get feedback instead of this round about advice I'm getting.


Why have you not asked her why you can't be facebook friends? Seem she doesn't want the friendship that public for whatever reason. Respect it and move on. Why keepobsessing over this? I don't get it.

Obviously I asked her that's why I'm posting the question here to get feedback because she didn't respond. Omg I'm done with this topic. I'll go to another source where I can get intelligent and thoughtful feedback.



I did. She obviously does not want to continue the communication on face book for whatever reason. Why don't you ask her. What makes you think we would know? What is the problem?

You may need a psychic. Good luck with that.