Hello,

I have not asked a question on these forums so I thank everyone who reads this :)

My girlfriend broke up with me and I am not sure what to do. She wants to be friends still and she tells me that she loves me with all her heart, and that I am her other half. I feel the same way about her. I love her so much.

I have been going through a long brutal divorce and custody battle while dating this girl. She told me that I have to sort my life out first and then we can try. She said the divorce is going on too long and that she is starting to resent me for it.

She wants to be friends because she said she wants me to be in her life still. But, I hurt so much. I have a burning in my chest and I can't stop thinking about her. I just want to talk to her and be there. We currently live together in an apartment. I can hear her crying in the bedroom while I cry on the couch. How can she think this is the best option?

I guess I should add that I hooked up with this girl while I was still married. My marriage had problems that I won't go into but, it was ending. And I can't change how I went into this relationship.

So how do I stay friends with her and not hurt, in hopes that we do try again after my divorce is final? I am scared of getting over her, and never rekindling our relationship. I am constantly looking at my phone hoping she sent me a text. I feel like an emotional wreck. I honestly thought I was going to be with this girl forever. I truly feel she is my other half.

Thank you.

Ok. Listen. She is not going 2 come back right away. U need 2 get over her. Here is what u need to do. Become friends!! That way u guys can grow close again. Ur relationship will build. :) I know how u feel. Hope this worked!

I think you two need to stop living together, get your life together that means your divorce is final. Then see how things go after that.

It sounds like she wants a chance at a clean start to a relationship. She's likely regretting the way things started, and stressed out by everything you're dealing with while getting divorced.

Give her what she wants and needs. Back off until your divorce is final. Look into getting your own place. Work on getting everything in your life in order so you can begin a relationship in the best way possible. You both deserve to have a relationship where both of you are bringing your best into it. Right now, with all the stress and baggage of an ongoing divorce, you aren't.

I'm sure you'll both feel better with a fresh start. Right now, you have too much going on to give your relationship the attention and focus it deserves, and she recognizes that. When you no longer have the cloud of a past relationship hanging over your heads, you'll both feel more free and confident in having a relationship together.