I've been married for 14yrs to a woman who's always been the apple of my eye. I just love her so much. Recently went through a about of depression myself and when I had snapped out of it, It was too late. She told me that she loves me, not in love anymore. That we're basically friends. What she didn't tell me is that she's been talking to an older guy. They've been sneaking phone calls, going for a coffee, etc. When I found out she swears it's innocent, just friends but since they were both married they didn't want to hurt their spouses. She swears nothing phyical happened but I feel emotionally she cheated and she should end it to work on us. She doesn't want to. Any ideas on how to proceed? # kids 5,9,11.