View Full Version : Boyfriend thinks I complain too much
chronicherself
Dec 6, 2012, 02:52 AM
My boyfriend and I just got our own house about 3 months ago and he never helps me out all he does is cook watch TV and sleep so I do complain cause I am tired of doing it all by myself and so I told him that and he said he is going to keep on rebelling till I stop complaing but I am a person that when I want it done I want it done and we argue everyday literally about stupid little things but we love each other a lot and by the way I am 20 and he is 22 and we have been together for almost 4 years and we lived with his parents for 3 years.
joypulv
Dec 6, 2012, 03:25 AM
Sharing chores is something that needs a lot of work when one person feels that they do more. We don't know what each of you does for work, how hard it is, how long the commute is, and what each of you considers needing to be done around the house.
Talk about all that. Compromise if you are a neat freak, and try to get him to compromise if he isn't. Pretend you are roommates (which you are, of course). Make a list of chores down the left side and columns across the top for daily, weekly, monthly, etc. Divide them up!
Welcome to real life after romance takes second place. Love is work. This won't be the only practical matter to discuss. Number one is money.
Oh and DO stop complaining; it gets nowhere. There's an old saying: If you want something done right, do it yourself.
llamarama
Dec 6, 2012, 03:33 AM
Its good that he's cooking at least, but he needs to do more than that. Do you both have jobs? If he doesn't, then tell him to get off his lazy a$$ and do something since he doesn't work! Its not just the woman's job to keep up the house anymore. Those days are long over! You could rebell yourself. Stop doing what you do and show him how fast the house gets nasty and how hard you are working yourself. If he can't see that or doesn't care, then I say to hell with him...
My brother in law to be is the same way. He won't do anything! I have complained and complained to my fiancé that if he's not going to do his share of the work, then either kick him the hell out, or I'm out! I have already set a date too! Its me or him! He shouldn't be living with us in the first place this long! Its been nearly a year since he moved in!
Lazy men just aren't worth it! The women can't do all the work all the time. If she does, then she should be single, giving her a REASON to do it all!