View Full Version : What to do with my girlfriend and her best friend?
robgizzy
Dec 4, 2012, 08:30 AM
I'm 17 and my girlfriend is too. My girlfriends has a best friend that she tells all of her business to. Her best friend is a bisexual and I didn't really trust her with my girlfriend at all. That's not really the only reason. Her friend sent me pics and tried to make me cheat on my girlfriend. She influenced me to cheat and tried to get me to leave my girlfriend.she also try to make me jealous and talk about what she'll do with my girlfriend and she always tell my girlfriend to cheat or leave me. The last thing she did was tell me my girlfriend was going to leave me and I thought it was the truth because my girlfriend tells her everything. I tried to tell my girlfriend what she does but my girlfriend laughed and said that even though she do all this and made me cheat that its not her problem and that she's not leaving her friend. That her friend just been through a lot. Now at this moment her friend is a big reason why our relationship is breaking apart and I don't trust her. I don't know what to do please help me.
smoothy
Dec 4, 2012, 08:49 AM
Walk away... its her life and her choice... you did your part and told her what you thought... and that is the limit of what you have any responsibility or right to do. THis may be the first time for you but it won't be the last. We all have to do this from time to time.
robgizzy
Dec 4, 2012, 09:20 AM
I always think to do that but I promised to her I'll make her life better and I love her so much. I love to help people and she been through so much and I think she's too cute to get hurt and that stops me from leaving her. Then I chested and she gave me chances.
Wondergirl
Dec 4, 2012, 09:25 AM
SHE makes her life better for herself. YOU cannot do that.
robgizzy
Dec 4, 2012, 10:59 AM
Thank you :)
hheath541
Dec 4, 2012, 09:40 PM
First of all, her friend did NOT make you cheat. That was YOUR decision and YOUR actions.
Second of all, her friend being bisexual means nothing, if your girlfriend isn't interested in being with her.
Third, if you KNOW this friend lies, why do you even bother listening to her?
Ok, now that I've covered the details, I'll try to address the big issue. You're asking us to help you figure out how to convince your girlfriend to give up her best friend. That can be answered very easily. Not going to happen.
No matter how much she loves you, she's not going to give up her best friend for you. If you push her to do so, you will lose. Best friends are usually closer than boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, because they've been around longer and will last beyond a break up. Chances are, they've been friends for years, and both dated more than one person in that time. Do you really think she'd choose a relationship of a few months over one of a few years?
You probably have friends she doesn't like. The difference is, most girls would never ask a boy to give up his friends, or complain about them, because they know the friendship will win. Maybe you have a friend that hits on her whenever you're not around, or one that tells jokes she finds offensive. Maybe not. What matters is, she's not expecting you to choose her over your friends.
teensportychick
Dec 5, 2012, 10:01 PM
Tell your girlfriend's best friend that she needs to stop and save the messages and show your girlfriend. If your girlfriend keeps letting her best friend controle your relationship just tell her you are sick of it and you are done... You don't deserve to be put in th situation
I hope everything works out! :)