Girlinstress
Nov 23, 2012, 11:51 PM
Hi..
M a brahmin girl in love with a non brahmin guy whose family was close to us since childhood.. We fell in love 5 yrs ago and had a long distant relationship since then meeting about 4 times an yr. My parents also had a love marriage but both brahmins. They are very liberal and transparent so I did not hesitate to tell this to them... But they reacted violently. I have finished my studies and now working, My guy is 1 and a half yr elder to me and he is cool.. now my parents are bringing in guys to me to get married. I tried convincing them but they are upset so much that they stop eating properly, sleeping, and brain washing me every day, so I stopped discussing it with them to gain some peace.
They are rejecting my desire for the reasons below:
1. The guy's family is totally dependent on him (at least for 3 yrs from now). M parents have an impression that I might fall into sever financial troubles
2. They are non brahmins and cook all that and they might not want to visit me with that stuff
3. I have an elder brother and parents think that he might not be respected by his future in-laws if I marry some other caste guy
4. according to some astrologer, I won't have a smooth life if I marry the guy I love
Above all, my guy is very ambitious and going very good in his career and life. He said he is ready to take me in any situation. He believes in "Expect nothing from other and believe urself" . I love that attitude and I'm sure will be happy with him.
What can I do in such situation? I have a fear that my parents will be pointed because of me and go into a depression or I may be the cause of any health ailments to them.
Please suggest..
Thanks in advance!
M a brahmin girl in love with a non brahmin guy whose family was close to us since childhood.. We fell in love 5 yrs ago and had a long distant relationship since then meeting about 4 times an yr. My parents also had a love marriage but both brahmins. They are very liberal and transparent so I did not hesitate to tell this to them... But they reacted violently. I have finished my studies and now working, My guy is 1 and a half yr elder to me and he is cool.. now my parents are bringing in guys to me to get married. I tried convincing them but they are upset so much that they stop eating properly, sleeping, and brain washing me every day, so I stopped discussing it with them to gain some peace.
They are rejecting my desire for the reasons below:
1. The guy's family is totally dependent on him (at least for 3 yrs from now). M parents have an impression that I might fall into sever financial troubles
2. They are non brahmins and cook all that and they might not want to visit me with that stuff
3. I have an elder brother and parents think that he might not be respected by his future in-laws if I marry some other caste guy
4. according to some astrologer, I won't have a smooth life if I marry the guy I love
Above all, my guy is very ambitious and going very good in his career and life. He said he is ready to take me in any situation. He believes in "Expect nothing from other and believe urself" . I love that attitude and I'm sure will be happy with him.
What can I do in such situation? I have a fear that my parents will be pointed because of me and go into a depression or I may be the cause of any health ailments to them.
Please suggest..
Thanks in advance!