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caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 07:13 PM
Ok my sister has 3 kids she lost 2 of the kids to her ex husband the 3rd child wasn't his but he sighned the birth certificate he didn't want him because he didn't belong to him that being said he's out of tge picture the biological father has been proving unfit so he's out of the question to but she is very abusive to this baby she smacked him in the face an gave him a bloody nose I got pictures of the rag I used to clean his face and I have the rag in a plastic bag I'm trying to get custody of him she is abusive, has major anger problems ,has went to rehab twice because she has a pill problem that isn't prescribed to her, she has a alcohol problem, they have a pack of hotdogs in the frige and a bag of chips and tge rest beer we had people tell us they seen the baby drunk she screams at him he is acculy afraid she lost her car is getting evicted she wrote suicide notes to all 3 kids. About 9 months ago I have them. She has slept with over half the community ,she lies and cries to get her way, is this enough to prove unfit I have plenty of whitnesses that is willing to go to court I called the cops and cps the cop said the child wasn't in danger at that point so he Couldn't do anything today she has no license her background is OK not to bad what do I need to do ? Where do I start ? Is this enough to prove her to be unfit? I started with cps but I want him out as quickly as possible please help

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 07:56 PM
Call CPS. They will go to the house and investigate. If things are the way you say they are, they could remove the child from the home. You can tell the person you speak to everything you've said here. They will not tell you the outcome, but your sister will probably tell you she had a visit from CPS.

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:05 PM
I.doubt she will call us because she is highly mad right now we had her car taken.away she's getting evicted because of this the cops.were.called and the cops.called cps will I get the baby before cps.does or will they take.him.away

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 08:20 PM
I.doubt she will call us bc she is highly mad right now we had her car taken.away she's getting evicted bc of this the cops.were.called and the cops.called cps will I get the baby before cps.does or will they take.him.away

You will not get the baby before CPS does. If they find her unfit, CPS will send the baby to a foster home until they sort things out. They will try to place the baby with family if possible, but that will take time.

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:26 PM
See I was told she could sign him.over.to us an they will let her so he's not in.Foster care and I know she will do that before he's in the system

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:27 PM
What state are you in

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 08:28 PM
See I was told she could sign him.over.to us an they will let her so he's not in.Foster care and I know she will do that before he's in the system

Then, I guess you already had your answer.

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 08:28 PM
What state r u in

California

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:29 PM
I just want him safe with us not.Foster care or.with her this baby didn't ask for this

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:31 PM
See the laws.are different in.every state I'm in nc

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 08:34 PM
I just want him safe with us not.Foster care or.with her this baby didn't ask for this

Of course you do. I've seen so many cases where the parent was visited by CPS, had to take parenting classes, and were told to keep a better home. They were able to keep their children. It would have been helpful if the baby had been taken to the hospital after being hurt by your sister. That way, CPS would have been involved much sooner.

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:34 PM
I know.about what to do I just don't need any mess up because.one mess up the.state has.him or he stays with her she needs help and she's not going to get it if she don't loose everything starting with the kids they don't.need.to be apart of her rollar.coster when she gets better ill give him back alone with her car and a place to stay

caddiebug
Nov 18, 2012, 08:38 PM
Me to and sadly he needs to be taken away and that's my.flesh.and.blood

teacherjenn4
Nov 18, 2012, 08:40 PM
I know.about what to do I just don't need any mess up bc.one mess up the.state has.him or he stays with her she needs help and she's not gonna get it if she don't loose everything starting with the kids they don't.need.to be apart of her rollar.coster when she gets better ill give him back alone with her car and a place to stay

Your state's CPS website talks about providing in home counseling to parents in order to keep the family unit together. So, that may be the case for your sister. Each case is done on an individual basis, so I hope it turns out well for all involved.

cdad
Nov 19, 2012, 02:49 PM
If the child is taken from the home the child will most likely be given to the legal father. From there who knows what options may or may not open up.

How was the boi father proven and was this done by a court?