My stepson recently got his acceptance letter to collage. I found out by another parent, at a football game, not by my stepson. I have done everything for him since he was eight. I bought him a car when his mother refused, my husband and I do everything for our kids. When he told his father he was accepted his father told him several times to send me a text to let me know, since I work out of state. Am I wrong in feeling very hurt and disrespected by my stepson for not being informed of his acceptance?

No you are not wrong, your stepchild should have told you the good news

There's no wrong when it comes to hurt, but there is about lack of respect. Although this is disrespectful, it's by omission, and seems to have something deliberate behind it. I would ask your husband if he knows what it might be.

Perhaps your stepson feels that there have been 'gratitude' strings attached to various purchases, or that you bought him a car as a weapon against his mother. And we don't know what financial arrangements you have with your husband, but saying 'I bought him a car' instead of 'we' is fraught with meaning, whether you and your husband share all expenses or not.

Just guesses, not analysis! You tell us.