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Vannatyc
Nov 8, 2012, 06:44 PM
Im confuse I think my boyfriend is gay

smoothy
Nov 8, 2012, 06:45 PM
So... whats your question exactly then? What you made was a statement and this isn't a blog.

dontknownuthin
Nov 8, 2012, 06:48 PM
If you think he's gay, he probably is. He's probably the confused one, trying to fit into society despite his true feelings. Open the conversation with him, don't be judgmental or mean spirited about it, break up with him and offer your continued friendship if it is not too hard for you to do so.

Let him come out on his own terms - do not "out" him. All you have to tell other people is that you were "not compatible" and leave it at that. Some people consider a gay person dating someone of the opposite gender to be a huge fraud. Well, we all try dating to figure out who we are as much as who the other person is, and to figure out what life we want. For gay people, part of that process is coming to terms and acceptance with their gay identity. He would not have dated you if he did not see things in you that he wants for himself, but there's no way you can be what he needs if you are a woman and he ultimately needs a man. Be grateful you could help him learn something about himself, and recognize that this was a dating relationship, not a marriage. You can move on.

Vannatyc
Nov 8, 2012, 07:15 PM
I have been wit this person for 8 yrs now.. Helping him fight his addiction and being his punching bag. hoping when he come out he will really show me the genuine love tat he think he is giving me.. Through his addiction he would do anything to know where I am at.. Tell me he loves me but don't trust me bcsuse he think I'm cheating even though I'm not.. I did everything I could to make him trust me and also not letting everyone else see his ugly side.. And tat is every night when I have to fight the demon.. And morning comes is I'm sorry I love u.. Waiting till 5 yrs later now.. After 4 months of him finally becoming sobber.. He changed.. Doesn't look me the same.. Hasn't even tell me how hot I am without a joke.. Always asking me how I think he looks.. Spending a lot of time wit one guy friend.. He always so happy to see this person and everyday the same time they are together. and when he leaves its sooo weird like he done something wrong.. The shirt he wore before is different or he will have something different on.. For about an hr.. He would sit there and stare away.. Not saying a word to me. see I be upstair while they be downstair.. At one time I even heard them saying I love you to each other.. Im in doubt.. Although the sigh are there.. He would snot look me in the eye anymore and just enjoy this person company and do anything even pick a fight to be wit him.. The game yea rite what an excuse.. I didn't at first love him.. But hoping tat when he sobber up he would love me so much because he was wrong fornor trusting me.. He hardly call when I use to him calling me every 30 min wondering where I'm at.. He hardly look at me without a smirk.. Sex ha? Sooo weird like he has to work really hard to give it.. Fantasing.. Although I have scream and yell in anger of him not want ing to be wit me.. And stiill has this person there listening and he still stay.. Who
Does tat.. Im confuse and how do I get the prove. its right under my nose.. How sad tat someone can betray you after you worked sooo hard to save them and keep their lies hidden.. I have sacrifice my happiness for him.. Hoping he will love me for that..

Vannatyc
Nov 8, 2012, 07:23 PM
Please help me leave after daughter and a house she loves and grew up in.. What should I do can't confront him because he says I'm just feeling quilty.. Even though I have given him hits.. But he don't care.. I love you is all he can say..