It was easy to accommodate my former husband whose girth was 6 inches and length was about 7 inches.
In fact it could have been a larger girth as it was never painful.
Now the man I am considering marrying has said he is large. Upon enquiry his girth is 8.5 inches and his length is about the same. I am of average height. 5.ft 6 inches. Please I am asking for professional advice.

How big is a baby? He's not anywhere as big as that... like fishermen.. most guys lie about how big a fish they caught.

As a gay guy I would have to tell him HELLLLLL NOOOOOOOOOO.

As a gay guy I would have to tell him HELLLLLL NOOOOOOOOOO.

With all due respect, I don't he is trying to put it in her pooper. At least all the time.

I am a little skeptical about the 8inch girth, but we can go with it. You can fit it, you'll stretch. As Smoothy said you're design to have a baby's head go the other way. I think any penis will be smaller than that.

Hi Smoothy,
Thanks for your answer.
All the same, I don´t think the comparison can be made.
The body is prepared hormonally for over 9 months before birth. The period of labour and dilation of the vagina and cervix to be open wide enough to give birth usually takes many hours, even up to 48 hours or more before the body is ready.
With intercourse, I realize that hormones come into action in preparing the body, but in all seriousness, I would appreciate a factual answer from someone qualified, with medical advice, (other than "use plenty of lube" etc.).

With all due respect, I don't he is trying to put it in her pooper. At least all the time.

I am a little skeptical about the 8inch girth, but we can go with it. You can fit it, you'll stretch. As Smoothy said you're design to have a baby's head go the other way. I think any penis will be smaller than that.

Hi CravenMorhead,
Thanks for your answer!
Have you any idea how long it will take until all stretching has been accomplished, for things to feel comfortable?

As a gay guy I would have to tell him HELLLLLL NOOOOOOOOOO.

Oliver, are you trying to scare me or something or are you trying to tell me it is too big? - Please, this is someone I am planning to be with forever. I hope you understand!

Oliver, are you trying to scare me or something or are you trying to tell me it is too big? - Please, this is someone I am planning to be with forever. I hope you understand!
Oliver is a fearmonger. The orifice he is thinking about isn't a vagina.

Like smoothy said, your vagina can stretch to accommodate the delivery of an 8+ pound baby. You'll be fine. Just relax, go slow, and allow your muscles to be flexible. Or you can tense up and fight it, like women in labor might do, and cause yourself some pain. I too am wondering about his measurements (does he measure himself just before an orgasm?).

Hello She:

If it's going to stretch, it'll stretch when you're stimulated. If I were you, though, I'd DO him, then you'll know.

I expect a full report.

excon

Oliver is a fearmonger. The orifice he is thinking about isn't a vagina.

Like smoothy said, your vagina can stretch to accommodate the delivery of an 8+ pound baby. You'll be fine. Just relax, go slow, and allow your muscles to be flexible. Or you can tense up and fight it, like women in labor might do, and cause yourself some pain. I too am wondering about his measurements (does he measure himself just before an orgasm?).

Thanks for your reply Wondergirl !
His measurements are when he is not fully aroused!
I hope you took my reply to Smoothy into consideration before replying.
My question to you is: "Have you had first-hand experience, or read reports, or spoken with others who have mentioned their own experience on this?"

Hello She:

If it's gonna stretch, it'll stretch when you're stimulated. If I were you, though, I'd go ahead and DO him, then you'll know.

I expect a full report.

excon

Hi Excon,
Thanks for your feedback!
I am waiting for marriage dear.

His measurements are when he is not fully aroused!
I hope you took my reply to Smoothy into consideration before replying.
My question to you is: "Have you had first-hand experience, or read reports, or spoken with others who have mentioned their own experience on this?"
Why is anyone even measuring him?? Is there a locker-room competition going on?

I've had two babies. You will be fine.

Why is anyone even measuring him???? Is there a locker-room competition going on?

I've had two babies. You will be fine.

My dear, thanks for your reply.
You are so funny! - LOL! When he stated he was really large, then I wanted to put my mind at rest to know if I could accommodate him, so he kindly measured himself.

Hello again, She:


I am waiting for marriage dear.My compliments. Most people don't do that these days.

Look. I don't really know much about these things. I understand that it only hurts when his penis hits your cervix. I think you've got a couple inches to spare. I wouldn't worry at all about the girth.

Excon

You are so funny! - LOL !! When he stated he was really large, then I wanted to put my mind at rest to know if I could accomodate him, so he kindly measured himself.
What a trooper he is!! Of course, he did this when no one was around.

Hello again, She:

My compliments. Most people don't do that these days.

Look. I don't really know much about these things. I understand that it only hurts when his penis hits your cervix. I think you've got a couple inches to spare. I wouldn't worry at all about the girth.

excon

Thanks for being so reassuring!
I appreciate that.

What a trooper he is!!! Of course, he did this when no one was around.

LOL! You are a comic! Should I send a male cousin over to go and verify?

I'm reminded of the saying "Why do women have such bad depth perception? Because all their lives they've been told that 2 inches is actually 10".

Even if he is as big as he says, you'll stretch to accommodate, and I have had experience with well endowed men. In fact, my first time was with someone that was not small by any means.

You'll be fine.

Like excon said, the length might be the problem if he smashes up against your cervix. Girth should be no problem at all, as much as you or he might want to think it is.

Like excon said, the length might be the problem if he smashes up against your cervix. Girth should be no problem at all, as much as you or he might want to think it is.

Thanks Wondergirl!
I have read up on something which is do-nut shaped, (like a rubber ring) to act as a cushioning bumper and to take the edge off the length!

I'm reminded of the saying "Why do women have such bad depth perception? Because all their lives they've been told that 2 inches is actually 10".

Even if he is as big as he says, you'll stretch to accommodate, and I have had experience with well endowed men. In fact, my first time was with someone that was not small by any means.

You'll be fine.

Hi Alty,
I appreciate your first-hand experience!
Thanks for that!

Don't get too worked up over length either. That is rarely a problem unless he gets very aggressive. (Tell him WG said to be nice.)

Don't get too worked up over length either. That is rarely a problem unless he gets very aggressive. (Tell him WG said to be nice.)

I am not worried about length dear, as it was never a problem before.
It was just the thought of the girth! I didn´t want to say "I do, until girth us do part!"

It was just the thought of the girth! I didn´t want to say "I do, until girth us do part!"
Hahahaha! You'll be fine.

Be sure to report back, like excon said.

Hahahaha! You'll be fine.

Be sure to report back, like excon said.

I sure will do!

Thanks to everyone for your helpful answers!
This is marvellous to have had such quick feedback!
Thanks a million! She77

We look forward to the report after you're married. Don't get too detailed, we don't want Excon too excited. ;)

But seriously, you'll be fine, and congrats. :)

We look forward to the report after you're married. Don't get too detailed, we don't want Excon too excited. ;)

But seriously, you'll be fine, and congrats. :)

Thanks for your kindness!!
I will keep it factual.

I do have another question to ask on this subject.
How long will it take before I have adjusted to his size?

I do have another question to ask on this subject.
How long will it take before I have adjusted to his size?

Only experience can answer that question.

Something you might consider is getting a vibrator/adult toy and experimenting. They come in a variety of different sizes and it might help put your mind at ease.

Also remember that arousal begins long before you get into the bedroom.

Hi Smoothy,
thanks for your answer.
All the same, I don´t think the comparison can be made.
The body is prepared hormonally for over 9 months before birth. The period of labour and dilation of the vagina and cervix to be open wide enough to give birth usually takes many hours, even up to 48 hours or more before the body is ready.
With intercourse, I realize that hormones come into action in preparing the body, but in all seriousness, I would appreciate a factual answer from someone qualified, with medical advice, (other than "use plenty of lube" etc.).

And while I could easily take offense to the comment about getting an answer "......but in all seriousness, I would appreciate a factual answer from someone qualified, with medical advice, (other than "use plenty of lube" etc.)......." I won't in this case, so I will point out you aren't talking to someone who is 18... or has only been with one or two women in his life. I am 51... and before I got married I have been with several Dozen Women before I found the right one... and I am not a one trick pony either. I know far more about such things that most women do... and more than a few site members can vouch for me there..

The comparison IS accurate because not even the largest recorded mans penis is more than a fraction the size of a small baby. My point being it's a VERY elastic organ.

And the fact you even had to ask this question tells me you don't have that much experience (with various partners) to know the answer I gave was very accurate.


Many couples also participate in an act called Handballing... (the less crude of its various names) They almost exclusively are NOT pregnant or having prolonged dilation such as child birth... it can easily stretch HALF as much as during child birth and that is still many times large than a well hung guy would be.

And even a small male hand is bigger than a very large wiener.

You are going to have more trouble with a very LONG guy before you will have trouble with a very THICK guy.. its how the organ stretches to accommodate.

Thanks for your feedback Cat.

And while I could easily take offense to the comment about getting an answer
"from someone qualified.." I won't in this case, so I will point out you aren't talking to someone who is 18....or has only been with one or two women in his life.
The comparison IS accurate because not even the largest recorded mans penis is more than a fraction the size of a small baby. My point being its a VERY elastic organ.

And the fact you even had to ask this question tells me you don't have that much experience (with various partners) to know the answer I gave was very accurate.


Many couples also participate in an act called Handballing....(the less crude of its various names) They almost exclusively are NOT pregnant or having prolonged dilation such as child birth....it can easily stretch HALF as much as during child birth and that is still many times large than a well hung guy would be.

And even a small male hand is bigger than a very large wiener.

I am 51....and before I got married I have been with several Dozen Women before I found the right one....and I am not a one trick pony either. I know far more about such things that most women do....and more than a few site members can vouch for me there..

You are going to have more trouble with a very LONG guy before you will have trouble with a very THICK guy.. its how the organ stretches to accommodate.

Thanks dear Smoothy,
No offense meant, and as a matured man I am sure you will not take offense on such a delicate matter!
For a man it is easier! He does not have the same concerns as women do.
I have heard a lot of opinions on a variety of subjects in my 55 years and not all have been factual.
I am in my menopause and have not had intercourse since my divorce over 20 years ago, so I am preparing myself mentally and emotionally for a new marriage and this information is important for me to be at ease beforehand.

I have heard a lot of opinions on a variety of subjects in my 55 years and not all have been factual.
I am in my menopause and have not had intercourse since my divorce over 20 years ago
NOW you are telling us this? I had gotten the impression you are a sweet young thing in her 20s.

Have you had children?

NOW you are telling us this? I had gotten the impression you are a sweet young thing in her 20s.

Have you had children?

My dear, please re-read my question.
I had already mentioned that I was married before, so that should
Have told you that I am not in my 20´s.
No, my former husband was not able to give me children.
All the same, it does not stop me from being a sweet young woman in my 50`s!

Thanks dear Smoothy,
no offense meant, and as a matured man I am sure you will not take offense on such a delicate matter!!
For a man it is easier! He does not have the same concerns as women do.
I have heard a lot of opinions on a variety of subjects in my 55 years and not all have been factual.
I am in my menopause and have not had intercourse since my divorce over 20 years ago, so I am preparing myself mentally and emotionally for a new marriage and this information is important for me to be at ease beforehand.
And at that age (thanks for mentioning it) you might already be experiencing the typical natual lubrication issues most women have from time to time... and more often post menopausal

Actually you might find LESS problems at this age than you would have at 18. Just consider and remember.. as we guys age... (just like you ladies) we become less judgmental and more understanding... don't worry... he's planning on marrying you... you would really have to work hard to screw anything up enough to upset or disappoint him.

Just be yourself... the rest will fall into place.

I had already mentioned that I was married before, so that should
have told you that I am not in my 20´s.
That doesn't mean that at all! You could have been married at 21, divorced, and now you are 24.

And at that age (thanks for mentioning it) you might already be experiencing the typical natual lubrication issues most women have from time to time...and more often post menopausal

Actually you might find LESS problems at this age than you would have at 18. Just consider and remember..as we guys age...(just like you ladies) we become less judgmental and more understanding.....don't worry....he's planning on marrying you....you would really have to work hard to screw anything up enough to upset or disappoint him.

Just be yourself...the rest will fall into place.

Thanks for your answer Smoothy,
I really look after myself physically, and nutrition wise by eating all the right foods to ensure that everything is functioning well. I am often taken to be around 40 as a result of this.

That doesn't mean that at all! You could have been married at 21, divorced, and now you are 24.

Thanks dear,
I am feeling like 24 presently, with all the good things happening in my life!

Thanks for your answer Smoothy,
I really look after myself physically, and nutrition wise by eating all the right foods to ensure that everything is functioning well. I am often taken to be around 40 as a result of this.

Both myself and my wife both pass for 10 years younger than we are as well, even though I do admit to needing to lose some weight myself. One of the hazards of being married to someone who is a better cook than you are yourself and I'm not a bad one.

Hello again, She:


I am often taken to be around 40 as a result of this.Well, if it doesn't work out, give me a call. I have a little wiener.

Excon

Both myself and my wife both pass for 10 years younger than we are as well, even though I do admit to needing to lose some weight myself. One of the hazards of being married to someone who is a better cook than you are yourself and I'm not a bad one.

Try making sure you eat at least one raw organic veg. salad each day, served with lemon juice and olive oil and tamari soya sauce. I tend to grate the veg coarsely.
Try eating your proteins last, and your raw foods first. If you can eat at least 60% of your foods raw, then you will loose weight.

I've got to try that as a dressing for variety... Usually its extra virgin Olive oil (not too much) and Balsamic Vinegar... (the REAL stuff not the imitation stuff most places sell)

Lemon Juice, tamari soya sauce and extra virgin olive oil (certainly), are all alkaline foods.
The balsamico vinegar although delicious is acidic !

Back on topic:

She77, you seem more comfortable with thoughts of your upcoming marriage. Do you have any other concerns about sex or your relationship? If so, all you need to do is add them to this thread. We will try to give you the best advice we can.

If you are interested, we have boards for other topics such as food and Discussions. I hope you will find them enjoyable.

Thank you.

Yes thanks Cat!
My questions have been answered!
(Nutrition is very important to keep one´s sexual health too! ;) )
Thanks for the info on the other boards.
She77