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Kyssii
Nov 7, 2012, 09:46 PM
Im 14 and I have been with this amazing guy for over 6 months.The only problem is my parents HATE him with a passion. He had tried in every way possible to gain their respect and be their idea of a perfect boyfriend. It all started when we first got together and my parents miss read a text and thought he was out getting high but he wasn't the auto spell messed up his whole message. Ever since then they have found every little flaw and called him on it. It got so bad that we snuck around for awhile to avoid my parents.That really back-fired though. They found out and now take every precaustion they can to keep us apart. Im not even allowed to hang out with any of my friends anymore because they think I'm going to see him. I understand that and all but I wish they would just trust me. And him for that fact. He is honestly the guy of my dreams. He treats me likea princess,I mean he bought me a 5000 dollar ring with our birth stone in it, for our 5 month. I don't think material things matter that much but that was beyond anything I could have ever thought of. If my parents would just take 1 hour to get to know him they would love him. But if I even bring him up I get yelled at and sometimes it even goes farther than that... I just don't know what to do. I have tried talking to them about him and even he has came to my house to talk to them but they won't even listen. I love him and he loves me, but then there's my parents... help?

teacherjenn4
Nov 7, 2012, 09:52 PM
How old is he?

J_9
Nov 7, 2012, 09:58 PM
He bought you a $5,000 ring? Where did he get the money?

Wondergirl
Nov 7, 2012, 09:58 PM
He gave you a $5000 ring? My engagement ring cost $250.00.

Kyssii
Nov 7, 2012, 09:58 PM
He is 15 but will be 16 in a few months we are 17 months apart

J_9
Nov 7, 2012, 09:59 PM
At 15 years old where did he get $5,000 to buy you a ring?

teacherjenn4
Nov 7, 2012, 09:59 PM
he is 15 but will be 16 in a few months we are 17 months apart

Where did he get the money for that? You are way too young for a boyfriend.

Kyssii
Nov 7, 2012, 10:04 PM
He comes from a wealthy family. He also was an child actor in holland before he moved here to the united states.

J_9
Nov 7, 2012, 10:12 PM
he comes from a wealthy family. He also was an child actor in holland before he moved here to the united states.

Sorry, don't believe it.

Your parents are right to keep the two of you apart. You snuck behind their backs and lost their trust. Also, at 14, you are too young to be in such a serious relationship.

You expect them to trust you, but you lied to them. How can they trust you?

Time to back off the relationship with the boy if you want to have any relationship with your parents.

At your age your parents are the law, you either abide by their rules or suffer the consequences. Actually, as a mother of 4 kids, I don't blame them for treating you the way they are.

Kyssii
Nov 7, 2012, 10:41 PM
I understand that you don't believe me. I mean its not exactly a very believible. But from your point of view, how would you want your child to approch you with the situation? I just want to talk to my parents about it, but I don't know how to go about it.

Wondergirl
Nov 7, 2012, 10:43 PM
First, you need to reestablish their trust of YOU.

dontknownuthin
Nov 7, 2012, 10:45 PM
Even if he can afford it, any kind of ring for a girlfriend your age is excessive. If I were your mother I would make you return it even if it cost $50. You are not old enough to date in my opinion - by about two years. You snuck around with this boy, so are disrespecting your parent's wishes to be with him. He is also disrespecting your parents wishes by dating you against their wishes.

No matter how I look at this, you are wrong and your parents are right and you should not be dating anyone, much less someone your parents disapprove of. Frankly, I doubt your ring story - doubt he spent that kind of money even if he has it. It sounds like you're just trying to make him sound better than he is. It doesn't work too well though because the story makes him sound really inappropriately excessive in giving you something like that.

As for this being the guy of your dreams - no way you can possibly, in a million years, know what kind of guy is best for you at this age. You won't believe me now, but you will ten years from now.

joypulv
Nov 8, 2012, 12:09 AM
You seem naïve and gullible (maybe no more so than any other 14 year old). Amsterdam is the number one shipping port for illegal drug distribution in the world, and Holland allows a lot of drugs. So I believe that chances are he WAS out getting high. Added to that is that he is from a wealthy family, and a wealthy family that gives him money (or he has plenty of his own from acting), so that doubles my fears that he can afford a lot of pot and possibly other drugs. As for the ring, I wouldn't want a daughter of mine accepting it. (Who knows if he spent 5K or not - many stores have constant 75% off sales and they are meaningless, because they are always on sale) but still, he shouldn't be buying you a ring! Your '5 month' - that's just juvenile. Sorry.
And all that pales to you sneaking behind your parents' backs, so the whole issue now is pretty much impossible, to my mind. It's going to take you at least a year of being a goody two shoes to get their trust back.

alex252
May 22, 2013, 01:08 AM
You can't judge someone by the direct bargains on gift, you should be more focused on his intentions. Most of the time parents are right because they have done more stupid things than you at this point of time. I think you should first decide if the guy has good intentions towards you and if he does, then you should slowly convince your Parents. You should clearly mention that if you choose to stuck with him whole your life and if anything goes wrong you are ready to bear the mess. I sure they will listen to u, if you try to convince them hard.

All the best.