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Jiser
Nov 6, 2012, 05:43 PM
Hi all I am an old member and I have returned after being dumped in my second serious relationship via text. At the same time she also removed me and my family from her fb. Her exact words 'I am sorry to do this over text but its not working. Its over x' I also text back saying how I thought it was a cowards way out over text and lack of respect etc and that I would always remember the 'happy times'.

Funny thing is last time I saw her I thought we had worked out our issues and we were cuddling in bed. Of course this hasn't come out of the blue. For the past two weeks we had been arguing.

I remember previously we had been so happy and its so hard now after 6 months of spending most evenings and weekends with someone for them to dump you over text. We have even been on holiday/vacation for a week to spain which was an amazing time.

She does have issues e.g. depression, eplipsey but now I am left at nearly 27 with nothing. A massive gap in my life, a hole. I have two male friends in a quiet town with not a lot going on. Of course I want her back but have been in this situation before so have deleted/blocked her from all the usual phone/fb etc. I am not sure how to cope really... Specially when I thought we had worked out our issues only to be dumped by my 22 year old moody girlfriend via text! :( I feel so ill, so sad and lonely. She even had the cheek to text me 'x' and that she didn't want to 'see my cry as it would hurt' as an exuse for dumping me via text.

teacherjenn4
Nov 6, 2012, 05:49 PM
In your quote you say, "Get busy living..." so do just that. Even though it doesn't seem like it, your age difference can seem like a lot at your ages. She sounds classless, so move on with your life. Do some volunteer work and make something out of this time of reflection. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself will just make things worse.

Wondergirl
Nov 6, 2012, 06:00 PM
Welcome back, Jiser! I'm sorry to hear about the breakup, but it sounds like you are actually better off (if THAT'S the way she treats you at such a sensitive time).

What is your life like with school possibilities or work or family?

Jiser
Nov 6, 2012, 06:03 PM
Welcome back, Jiser! I'm sorry to hear about the breakup, but it sounds like you are actually better off (if THAT'S the way she treats you at such a sensitive time).

What is your life like with school possibilities or work or family?

I live in England. I work for two town councils (local government) pretty boring IT work so its not great. The thing is for the past six months my life has revolved around my ex girlfriend who is now gone so effectively my old life is over.

I can study but I am going to be a very lonely person.

Addedd to this I get very emotional. Things affect me a lot more than others.

here2assist
Nov 12, 2012, 03:26 PM
If someone doesn't have the decency to breakup with you in person they don't deserve your time or energy. If you feel you need closure you could send a quick text saying that she is never welcome to contact you again. That way you won't be tempted to reach out to her and if she ever attempts to contact you again you'll be forced to live by your words and ignore it. For your next relationship make sure you enter it with a full, satisfied life. I wish you all the best.