After 10 Months of being with my girlfriend she's always told me everything from family problems to exs trying to talk to her. This time we were having a little argument and it started with her able to have friends and I can't (she has jealously issues so I choose to stay away from old friends and girls). Finally I said it wasn't fair. We started arguing and I said "Its not right your able to talk to guys and I can't talk to anyone" she smiled in a really weird way. I asked what? She said her and her ex talked a week ago. I didn't want to ask about what.

Before she would tell me that day her ex would text, I'm just mad she decided to tell a week later in a argument. I keep thinking its going to lead to another thing :( and for the past two days I can't stop thinking about it. Should I be worried that things will get worse?

Thank you or reading, I hope I can get some advice out of it.

In a relationship there has to be TRUST.. in which there isn't.. you both need to respect each other and give each other the place that belongs to each other.. if she decided to tlk to her ex she needs to understand how would she feel if you did that.. we all know that tlkng to other exes is a bad idea when your in a relationship.. TALK it out Don't ARGUE cause that doesn't fix anything.. find a solution to your guys issues and if there's no solution to it well then you decide what you want for yourself

Frankly, her talking to her ex isn't the issue I'm having. The fact that she expects you to stay away from all your friends, that's an issue. The fact that you're doing that, and she smirks when confronted about it, because she's been talking to her ex, that's what would make me more mad.

You need to find a girl that will accept you for who you are and not try to control you, while doing the very things she's jealous of you doing.

Think about it.

So u think I should leave?

So u think I should leave??

I can't make that decision for you, that's up to you, and you alone. If it were me I'd leave, but that's me. I'm not you.

I can't make that decision for you, that's up to you, and you alone. If it were me I'd leave, but that's me. I'm not you.
All right thanks :)


I can't make that decision for you, that's up to you, and you alone. If it were me I'd leave, but that's me. I'm not you.
I have a question... how do u get a name
Like yours is pets >_< how did u do that?

Who goes along with this double standard? You have walked on egg shells long enough. Stand up for yourself, and if SHE can't deal with it, who needs her?

This is a problem of your own making, sorry guy.

Alty is an EXPERT in the Pets forum, and a few other places or sure.

Alty is an EXPERT in the Pets forum, and a few other places or sure.

Blush. Right back at you Tal. :)

To the OP, to get an expert title you have to prove that you're an expert in a certain area, or more than one. To do that you have to show that you know what you're talking about. Most posters aren't made experts until they've been on this site for years, and really proven that they know their area of expertise.

I'm to tired to explain everything :(. But my girlfriend is abusive... she could never be wrong. She wasn't like that in the beginning :( but now she hits me in public and I try to make her change. She's the boss and I'm not going to lie. Not conceded but I'm good looking and I know I can get a new girl but I Don't have any guts to leave :(. Her friends say she has the pants in the relationship... even her teachers say that because she tells me to shut up in front of everyone... no matter who's around. I'll explain our story tomorrow but any advice how to eventually let go. Thank you

To be brave! You are a man,not a pet! Come on!

It's time to man up and leave!

I was with my ex husband for ten years. We were babies when we hooked up. Young love. One night, out of jealousy, he struck me. It was the first time he had EVER laid a hand on me... and the LAST! I left that very moment and filed for divorce the next day. NO ONE hits me and gets away with it! Bu bye!

The good thing about your situation is that you AREN'T married. No need to draw up divorce papers and go through the "no, it's my plate!" You can just leave.

So leave! She has issues! She won't change... you can't make her change.

I can't even imagine having an physical altercation in public, well, anywhere in general for that matter.

Shame on her! The way she treats you is disgusting!

But what's even more disgusting, is you allow her to treat you this way.

If you read my other post... My Gf is abusive. I'm 16 and she broke up with me about a hour ago. We have been together 10 months and she's probably left me 30 times within that 10 months... I've honestly left only once. That was once and that was out of anger... she said she didn't think she loved me anymore. So left and I was crying back for her like every time before... she always tries to make me feel bad. I'll do something for her and she never appreciates it :(... she calls me poor because there are times I Don't have money to do things with her... her family always has something to say about me.

So I'm asking for your advice to some how let go or simple steps. Just please I want this to stop.

You need to keep remembering all the bad things she puts you through. She's left you 30 times in less than a year... this doesn't sound like a very mature person. Actually, the relationship sounds like a mess anyway.

Forget her, hang out with friends and family. Someone else will come along that will make you forget all about her.

Asking this again >_< I had one good answer before but I need more advice.

If you read my other post... My Gf is abusive. I'm 16 and she broke up with me about a hour ago. We have been together 10 months and she's probably left me 30 times within that 10 months... I've honestly left only once. That was once and that was out of anger... she said she didn't think she loved me anymore. So left and I was crying back for her like every time before... she always tries to make me feel bad. I'll do something for her and she never appreciates it... she calls me poor because there are times I Don't have money to do things with her... her family always has something to say about me.

So I'm asking for your advice to some how let go or simple steps. Just please I want this to stop.

Three simple steps --

1. Get busy hanging out with friends, going to a gym, doing volunteer work at an animal shelter, hospital, nursing home, or library.
2. Write an essay for the site blog (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/blog/). (I am the editor :).)
3. Read books.

Along with moving on I would add you can't let other people control how you are feeling. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you decide whether you are going to have a good day or not. Since I am in control of that for my life I decide to make every day a good day.

Read the stickies (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)for some good tips that will help you get beyond this relationship. And be patient, it takes a while to get over a very bad experience.

If you have anything more to add about your relationship post it on this thread, don't start a new one.