Sorry this is kind of long but my girlfriend seems to be mad at me today for no apparent reason.The last time when she texted me she said "Babe I'm going to the gym I'll text you when I'm out. Muah<3 and I said OK with a smiley face/heart.

She texts me like hours later saying she is mad at me and goodnight and I asked her what was wrong and she hasn't texted me back. I have no idea what I have done. Any help?

She's maybe 17?

She's maybe 17?

Yes actually how did you know?

I'm psychotic. ;)

This is a ploy common to girls this age (and older) to push you into a corner and make you think you did something wrong. The plan is that you will text like crazy with many apologies to show how much you love her. She may or not continue to be unattainable but will finally accept your apologies and make you promise you won't do that again.

Girls like to keep guys on their toes. Don't fall for it!!

I'm psychotic. ;)

This is a ploy common to girls this age (and older) to push you into a corner and make you think you did something wrong. The plan is that you will text like crazy with many apologies to show how much you love her. She may or not continue to be unattainable but will finally accept your apologies and make you promise you won't do that again.

Girls like to keep guys on their toes. Don't fall for it!!!!
So then what am I supposed to do??

Okay. Let's think about this. She said she would call you. She didn't. Now she is mad about something (doing her "keeping you on your toes" thing) -- probably being mad because you didn't call her when you hadn't heard from her.

What choices do you have?

Okay. Let's think about this. She said she would call you. She didn't. Now she is mad about something (doing her "keeping you on your toes" thing) -- probably being mad because you didn't call her when you hadn't heard from her.

What choices do you have?

Said she would text not call but I dk if that would make a difference? And bleh I have no idea you tell me lol

said she would text not call but i dk if that would make a difference?? and bleh i have no idea you tell me lol
No, no. I want you to work this out. You will have a lifetime of dealing with females, so you have to start now.

She wants to be assured of your love. Yet, you have done nothing wrong. What choices do you have?

No, no. I want you to work this out. You will have a lifetime of dealing with females, so you have to start now.

She wants to be assured of your love. Yet, you have done nothing wrong. What choices do you have?

I guess I have to accept the fact that even though I didn't do anything wrong I should still apologize and everything am I right?

i guess i have to accept the fact that even though i didnt do anything wrong i should still apologize and everything am i right?
I wouldn't apologize. Then you are falling into her trap. Of course, that is one of your choices...

What are some of the other things you can do? Remember, she wants to know you love her.

I wouldn't apologize. Then you are falling into her trap. Of course, that is one of your choices....

What are some of the other things you can do? Remember, she wants to know you love her.

I can just tell her how I feel about her?

i can just tell her how i feel about her??
Yeah, that is certainly a choice, but it glosses over the whole problem. What else?

I wouldn't apologize. Then you are falling into her trap. Of course, that is one of your choices....

What are some of the other things you can do? Remember, she wants to know you love her.

I could just tell her how I feel about her?

I have no idea I'm out of ideas lol

That's the same thing as telling her you love her. Think! What if a male friend did what she did?

Id honestly just ignore it until later?I honestly have no idea lol

What would you say to a guy friend who is treating you this way?

If you're sure that you've done nothing wrong, I'd text her and say "Well, I'm not aware of anything I've done wrong. If you feel that I've done something, and you're upset, than be a grownup and tell me so I can either apologize, explain, or tell you you're crazy because I didn't do anything. If you're going to play games and not tell me what you're upset about, than so be it. I don't have time for games. You figure out what you want, and let me know".

But I'm female, and I never liked the games girls play. I never played them, and still don't play them, and I hate girls that do play them. So I'd turn the tables on her.

Alty crashed the party.

Damn you guys are right cause I know I did nothing wrong I just don't want to say the wrong thing then I end up losing her.I mean I'm even addicted to texting her and as of now I'm still checking my phone for the message I know I'm not going to get. I guess ill just tell her to stop playing gammes...

Be firm, don't apologize or get sucked into feeling bad because she is weepy and pleading. Keep it short and sweet -- "I don't like game playing. You said you would call me but you didn't. Always do what you say you will do."

damn you guys are right cause i know i did nothing wrong i just dont want to say the wrong thing then i end up loosing her.I mean im even addicted to texting her and as of now im still checking my phone for the message i know im not gonna get. i guess ill just tell her to stop playing gammes...

Here's the thing. If you don't stand your ground, tell her that you don't appreciate being accused of something when you didn't do anything, what will happen? You'll be her toy. Every time she gets upset you'll crawl on your knees begging for forgiveness when you did nothing wrong. That's not a relationship. You'll be miserable, and you'll end up breaking it off.

If you want to build something with her, than you have to build on trust, honesty, and communicating with her. That means that you have just as much right as she does to tell her when you're mad. And you have every right to be mad if you're being accused of something you didn't do.

Is it okay for her to do what she did, when you didn't do anything? She had no problem getting mad at you and risking the relationship. So why can't you speak your mind, and not play games like she is? At least you're being honest.

If you text her, tell her to stop playing games and tell you what you supposedly did wrong, and she gets mad, than turn the tables on her. Tell her that she's the one that started this, that you're not apologizing for something you didn't do, and if she's not willing to tell you why she's mad, than there's nothing more to talk about, because you don't want a relationship with someone that lies, tries to make you feel bad when you didn't do anything, and then gets defensive when you don't bow down to her demands. She either wants a boyfriend or a submissive servant that bows to her every demand and bad mood. She has to choose, and she has to grow up.

Don't play this silly game with her. She is either trying to freak you out, or showing her girls her power over you.

Its still a game, and no game is worth your dignity,or self respect. So no begging, just wait until she decides to give you the details. I would feel disrespected by such actions myself.