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cindykafor
Oct 22, 2012, 05:02 AM
I mistakenly dropped what I had in my mouth inside the soup bowl and husband stopped eating and said he feels like vomiting. When I pick my teeth after eating , he complains. What does these attitude mean?

Curlyben
Oct 22, 2012, 05:05 AM
That he is shocked by your lack of manners.

cindykafor
Oct 22, 2012, 05:13 AM
That he is shocked by your lack of manners.

Did u say lack of manner or that he felt otherwise, because he messes up the toilet after use and I wash it without complaining.

joypulv
Oct 22, 2012, 05:22 AM
This is going nowhere fast. You aren't even talking to him about how he feels about your behavior and he isn't doing the same about yours. TALK to HIM, not strangers online. If the talking doesn't help or you want help knowing how to start talking, ask below.

cindykafor
Oct 22, 2012, 05:28 AM
This is going nowhere fast. You aren't even talking to him about how he feels about your behavior and he isn't doing the same about yours. TALK to HIM, not strangers online. If the talking doesn't help or you want help knowing how to start talking, ask below.

The truth is that I don't like talking bcos he feels am complaining and takes it in another way. Imagine telling him to give me space to be myself bcos he is jealous and sort of monitors me and doesn't believe where I told him I am, he stopped calling entirely, so am scared of saying how I feel because it wounds d relationship all the time. Please tell me how to talk about my question bcos I feel bad,its like he doesn't see me as part of him, while I wash his stained pants feeling like its mine.

joypulv
Oct 22, 2012, 05:37 AM
OK, pretend you are in a therapist's office. First tell him (calmly) that you need a time to talk when there is no distraction and no anger, such as right after dinner. No TV, no phones, and not in bed either. Tell him that in general you feel that you have a certain list of needs that you want to work on with him, and have them written down, and ask him to do the same, as though it's school. Suspicion, lack of trust, seems to be one of yours. Criticism of your manners. And so on. Then state what it is you would like from him regarding each one. Then let him tell you the same about his needs. Then go through each of your lists in turn, discussing what you can compromise on, and change for each other. Let us know in a day or two if it works.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 22, 2012, 05:43 AM
You don't go into a private area and put your teeth in and out? I am sorry, my wife would make me sleep on the couch if I took my teeth out in front of her.

What you drop from your mouth, was it in your own personal bowl, or the big bowl to serve out of.

I am having trouble understanding why you don't see what you are doing is wrong

J_9
Oct 22, 2012, 06:19 AM
Chuck, she PICKS her teeth after eating. That's just disgusting. It should be done in private in the bathroom, not at the dinner table.

cindykafor
Oct 22, 2012, 07:09 AM
Thank U, U made sense more than other pple judging. I will try it tonight when he comes from work.