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venice_08
Oct 9, 2012, 09:24 PM
My partner and I have been boyfriend and girlfriend for 5 years and have lived together for 2 years now. When we started living together, I noticed that most of his time where allotted on his laptop in our room. Given the fact that he is a computer programmer. My problem is from then on, he don't have time for me as he spends most of his time doing stuff on his PC. Sometimes, when I woke up on midnights, I notice that he is talking/chatting on someone on his laptop. From the way his facial expressions and movement, I believe (women's instinct) that he is chatting to some girls. Sometimes, I will ask him what he is doing, but he always ended up hurting me. Saying hurtful words, as words like "you dont trust me at all, you are crazy". But then, every time I ask his laptop's password, he always change into a devil side wherein, he will throw things - cellphone, tablets and even scares me that he will throw his laptop on my face. The worst thing, he will hurt me physically. He slaps my face front and back. I want to end this relationship but he always try to hurt himself, hurt me, shout wherever place he wants - whatever hurtful words he wants. I feel ashamed for all the people who sees us and I am the one who always admitted that everything is my fault, until the story repeats over and over. Now, I am typing this with bruises on my face.. Any suggestion on how am I going to let this go?

Volimpdis
Oct 9, 2012, 09:41 PM
You could leave a note and disappear... as long as you have a safe place to go to that he doesn't know about. Either that or disappear and then call him on the phone so he can't hurt you.

venice_08
Oct 9, 2012, 09:44 PM
You could leave a note and disappear... as long as you have a safe place to go to that he doesn't know about. Either that or disappear and then call him on the phone so he can't hurt you.

Thanks, you have a point but I don't have a safe place to go.. Im employed right now and still needs to earn for a living. I wanted to move on a different house but he will definitely go after me.

J_9
Oct 9, 2012, 09:48 PM
Have you considered calling the police for domestic abuse?