blueeyedgirl01
Oct 2, 2012, 04:44 PM
My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. We were together for 4 years before we got married. It is the second marriage for both of us. A little history of our marriage prior to the issue I will be asking about. We have always been one of those loving couples, holding hands and having inside jokes. People comment all the time how much in love we seem to be. In the 5 years we have been together we have had about one argument a year. Not big ones either. We are each other’s best friends.
Six months ago his employer gave him a week to decide to transfer or lose his job. We could not find anything else in that amount of time so he transferred so he would not lose health benefits. He has to stay a year. We visit each other often. About every 2 to 3 weeks. We have a good sex life (before he left almost every day), so cut to the chase. He has had me go through his emails in the past and has always said I am free to check anything at any time. So, of course... I usually don't.
However a little over a week ago I found out he had changed his email password and did not tell me. So, I logged on and saw that he had contacted several women on craigslist. None of it ever went past the introduction stage but he gave out true information. I see this as a betrayal. What might have happened if he had not been caught? I know he loves me and that it was difficult to go from spending all our time together to being alone almost every day.
My question is... was this just him being curious like he said or is it definitely more? What can he do so I can trust him when he is so far away? Nothing even close to this has ever happened between us before. I am totally on new ground. Before this I really felt I had the perfect husband for me and a near perfect relationship.
Six months ago his employer gave him a week to decide to transfer or lose his job. We could not find anything else in that amount of time so he transferred so he would not lose health benefits. He has to stay a year. We visit each other often. About every 2 to 3 weeks. We have a good sex life (before he left almost every day), so cut to the chase. He has had me go through his emails in the past and has always said I am free to check anything at any time. So, of course... I usually don't.
However a little over a week ago I found out he had changed his email password and did not tell me. So, I logged on and saw that he had contacted several women on craigslist. None of it ever went past the introduction stage but he gave out true information. I see this as a betrayal. What might have happened if he had not been caught? I know he loves me and that it was difficult to go from spending all our time together to being alone almost every day.
My question is... was this just him being curious like he said or is it definitely more? What can he do so I can trust him when he is so far away? Nothing even close to this has ever happened between us before. I am totally on new ground. Before this I really felt I had the perfect husband for me and a near perfect relationship.