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sabresfan23
Sep 28, 2012, 09:30 AM
So here's the deal. Met this girl about over a year ago, have had a huge crush on her for the entire time. Always lots of sexual tension but easily became really close friends.

One night we got really drunk and made out and happened several times after. Her and her boyfriend broke up shortly thereafter. We definitely like each other but recently she's told me its too much. And that she can't handle a new boyfriend right now (which I understand completely). She's recently told me it's "too much" right now.

I don't want to lose this chance with her. Advice on how to take this going forward?

dnaghitorabi
Sep 29, 2012, 09:45 AM
Fact: You will not have a chance with her if you continue "pursuing" her.

It's crappy, but you just have to give her space and don't make her a priority. If you make her a priority and she ends up finding another guy, you'll feel like crap. You should go out with other women and if in the future you're both single and ready, go for it.

You might feel like you're passing up an opportunity, but the fact is you don't have an opportunity right now because she isn't ready. Right now is not a "chance."

talaniman
Sep 29, 2012, 04:32 PM
This isn't the girl of your previous posts is it? Regardless wasn't she cheating on her boyfriend? Or using you to get beyond him?

Leave her alone if she just broke up and stop pushing her. People need time after a break up, and likely she was just filling in time with you until she is ready to explore and experiment. Take heed my friend as making out with you while in a relationship is a dangerous thing, and seldom turns into anything healthy.