LittleBlackKat
Sep 26, 2012, 07:51 PM
There is a guy who I have been friends with since I was 12 years old. I have been getting closer to him over the years and he expressed that he has feelings for me, however he has a 5 month old daughter with literally a psychotic ex.
Now here is the real deal : I am having a rough day because ever since I started posting things and commenting on his statuses, his ex re-added him on FB and he added her back because he told me he has to be calm and nice to her for the sake of his daughter-because his ex won't let him see his kid if he doesn't do as she says-which makes sense. I totally get where he is coming from, but I do know she has been creeping my FB and my photos because he told me for one, and two, she only added him because she wants to see his posts on my wall and mine to his. I am NOT dating this man yet, I figured be wise and give it time because I am not sure if he is over his ex for one, even though he says he is.
And she has a nasty habit of running to him whenever he tries getting his life together and whenever she wants attention and someone to provide for her-especially male. She hasn't even graduated high school yet. His friends told me he has real strong emotions for me-but when I called him on the phone today to talk about his ex adding him on FB, he and I NEARLY got into a small argument, but to keep this message short - he and I are still FB friends and friends outside of FB, but we have decided not to talk to each other too too much just to see what his ex is up to. Our original plan was to remove each other from FB because he said : My ex MIGHT just want to see who you are in my life because she asked me if I am dating you and such, so if we remove each other on FB, she likely WILL eventually get bored of me and remove me on her FB (she's done it over 12 times to him in the past).
But I don't know, I get that she is the mother of his child, but this is ridiculous. I do NOT need this crap.
I just feel like he is NOT fighting for me, but at the same time I KNOW he can't BECAUSE his kid comes first. No questions asked.
I really don't know what to do.
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Now here is the real deal : I am having a rough day because ever since I started posting things and commenting on his statuses, his ex re-added him on FB and he added her back because he told me he has to be calm and nice to her for the sake of his daughter-because his ex won't let him see his kid if he doesn't do as she says-which makes sense. I totally get where he is coming from, but I do know she has been creeping my FB and my photos because he told me for one, and two, she only added him because she wants to see his posts on my wall and mine to his. I am NOT dating this man yet, I figured be wise and give it time because I am not sure if he is over his ex for one, even though he says he is.
And she has a nasty habit of running to him whenever he tries getting his life together and whenever she wants attention and someone to provide for her-especially male. She hasn't even graduated high school yet. His friends told me he has real strong emotions for me-but when I called him on the phone today to talk about his ex adding him on FB, he and I NEARLY got into a small argument, but to keep this message short - he and I are still FB friends and friends outside of FB, but we have decided not to talk to each other too too much just to see what his ex is up to. Our original plan was to remove each other from FB because he said : My ex MIGHT just want to see who you are in my life because she asked me if I am dating you and such, so if we remove each other on FB, she likely WILL eventually get bored of me and remove me on her FB (she's done it over 12 times to him in the past).
But I don't know, I get that she is the mother of his child, but this is ridiculous. I do NOT need this crap.
I just feel like he is NOT fighting for me, but at the same time I KNOW he can't BECAUSE his kid comes first. No questions asked.
I really don't know what to do.
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