View Full Version : Have not had sex in 1 year AAAH!
joygasm
Sep 20, 2012, 03:08 AM
My question is why is it my girlfriend does not have any desire to have the need or want to have sex with me? She shows no desire towards me in that subject only in the very beginning when we first dated.
I have a huge sex drive and can last for hrs. and in the beginning she wanted to have it everyday like me, now its nothing.
She does not pleasure herself she is not passionate nor does she want to be or even romantic which she thinks is boring. There is no compassion in our relationship no romance no appreciation for me, no lust or wanting to do fun things together like hiking or swimming anything she is 33 and I just turned 34.
I'm starting to think maybe I'm with the wrong person, I've never cheated on her and would not want to I'm an honest faithful gentleman. She is 5'1" from the Philippines lived in Canada for 17yrs very beautiful, hot body but does not like to show it off cause its a thing for them to be conservative.
Eats twice as much as me and I'm 6'2" 200lbs. I really enjoy sex a lot I'm a Leo she is a Capricorn maybe it should be a Leo and a Leo, please help this sex problem go away.
joypulv
Sep 20, 2012, 03:36 AM
I'm not sure how we strangers online would be expected to know what is in her mind. Have you talked to her about this in a deep, thoughtful way, when you aren't in bed? Is it possible that there's something about the way you had sex that bothered her?
If you two can't work out a compromise about sex, then of course you really have two options: stay with her and have no sex with her, or leave her.
Her age might be relevant, but not her height, and as for stereotypes about people from any given country being conservative, I think you need to get that idea out of your mind.
joygasm
Sep 20, 2012, 04:59 AM
(As for stereotypes about people from any given country being conservative, I think you need to get that idea out of your mind.) This part your wrong...
I don't have that idea in my head she has it in hers and tells me that's what her people are like.
joypulv
Sep 20, 2012, 05:19 AM
OK...
I just saw all that at the end about how much each of you eat and so on, which seems strangely irrelevant, and wondered why you hadn't said one peep about her feelings about sex with you in particular. Even something as basic as sex that goes on for hours, which you might assume she likes but maybe she doesn't. Foreplay for hours is one thing, intercourse for hours might just make her sore and her inner thighs hurt, etc --- how much have you really TALKED this out in detail?
Homegirl 50
Sep 20, 2012, 08:24 AM
You need to have the conversation with her. She is the only one that can tell you.
Maybe the sex is not satisfying for her.
Ask her.
joygasm
Sep 20, 2012, 03:37 PM
Foreplay are you kidding she does not want even to do foreplay she thinks its laim and boring and says what's the point of that cause then if your kissing on the neck she says then her neck is all wet and dirty then she has to clean and wash herself after, the same goes for if I want to go down on her which she liked before a few times but now for her she said if you do that I have to get clean sheets to sleep in and after and I'm all wet and have to clean up, she is a clean freak she even admits to it. I know I should have broke this relationship up earlier but didn't have the heart to break hers. Plus we live together and I think living apart will bring us closer together, than seeing each other day in and day out.
Homegirl 50
Sep 20, 2012, 07:49 PM
You two are obviously not a match.
You two need to break up.
talaniman
Sep 20, 2012, 08:45 PM
Is it possible you were fooled in the beginning and now that she has you she no longer feels obligated to have sex, which she thinks is dirty, and degusting?
Where did you find her at my friend? On line? Mail order? How did she get to your country?
teacherjenn4
Sep 20, 2012, 09:00 PM
Definitely not meant for each other.
lionsden123456
Sep 20, 2012, 09:16 PM
Does she have a history of depression or is depressed? I have found depression can cause a loss in sex drive.
Typically when women loose interest in sex the relationship is not doing well. You really need to address the issue or it might be time to move on.
joygasm
Sep 20, 2012, 11:46 PM
I asked yer if it was satisfying for her she said its awesome cause I seem to know so much.
Does she have a history of depression or is depressed? I have found depression can cause a loss in sex drive.
No she does not have depression.
joypulv
Sep 21, 2012, 02:10 AM
OK, I think we are convinced that she isn't for you... why are you still with her?
joygasm
Sep 21, 2012, 02:32 AM
Because she is very caring and understanding at times. The one thing I always thought strange and couples do this together but she does not and that is sleep naked next to me for the rest of the night after sex or any night. She has to be wearing a shirt and underwear and short on over top every night. We don't even have showers together does that sound wrong, to want that. She also won't let me touch her boobs ever unless we have sex other than that its of limits to me and she won't even get changed in front of me. What the heck
CravenMorhead
Sep 21, 2012, 08:27 AM
I don't think this is the woman for you. It sounds like she's got a few issues that she needs to work out with a psychologist.
A miss matched libido and such... differing opinions on sex will spell doom on this relationship. It would be a kindness to end it now and not let it drag out. It will end. And the longer it goes, the worse it will be. It is a hard place to be, but this is about the only way out. You know it and have said such.
Forsaking the bad because of the few specks of good is as bad as forsaking the good for a few bad points. She needs to find someone that is right for her, and I don't think you are.
Sorry, I hate giving good people bad news.