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Dave123Dave
Sep 17, 2012, 07:18 AM
I move to a foreign country recently for a marriage (that I didn't want to) and never mentioned to my g/f of the time that there were my intentions. We dated for 2 years, but both agreed that when I leave we will have a friendly relationship. Which was fine until we both started to realise we loved eac other more then we thought, but I never disclosed my marital status, we even met for a week and decided she will move with me, I was ready to walk out of t marriage, somehow she now got a clues , and my wife also found out. We broke up with my g/f, my wife who I don't have feelings for is ready to work things out. I still have very strong feelings for my ex. I need help and advice, I am also finding it hard to settle down in a new place due to lack of social activity in my life, and my wife isn't the best support, we are totally different and have nothing in common.

C0bra_M3nace
Sep 17, 2012, 07:28 AM
Then what are you still doing with your 'wife'. Do what makes you happy, not what you are forced to do.

26101965
Sep 17, 2012, 07:31 AM
Set your wife free. If your hearts not in it and it's somewhere else then stop dragging this out. Be gentle and kind to your wife and respectful

Dave123Dave
Sep 17, 2012, 07:48 AM
I loses my family. And besides my ex Will never take me back if she knew the truth, I am in a loose loose situation. The only hope I have is my wife wants to really work it out and believes love will grow, she has committed to work things out, which is positive, but are my feelings for my ex... Will they go away ?

C0bra_M3nace
Sep 17, 2012, 08:02 AM
I loses my family. And besides my ex Will never take me back if she knew the truth, I am in a loose loose situation. The only hope I have is my wife wants to really work it out and believes love will grow, she has committed to work things out, which is positive, but are my feelings for my ex... Will they go away ?

They will in time if you want them to. If you really want to work things out with your wife then do so. Focus all your energy on her and your marriage and your feelings will fade with the distraction.