So me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and we just had a baby a little over a month ago. He use to drink a lot but has cut it down to once a week. He said me and him would start doing things together on the weekends and that was about 2 months ago and 2 weeks ago is when I finally got him to take me out. Its like he doesn't want to spend anytime with me. I sit at home with the baby till its time for me to go back to work and he work Monday through Friday. I do everything for the baby and he just holds him and feeds him maybe once if I'm lucky, he has only changed for diapers. He doesn't get up with him through the night at all I do his excuse is I work you don't and when I go back to work he said he still won't, and he said he doenst want me to go back to work just sit and home and take care of our baby, but me sitting at home isn't getting the bills paid. And today he has hardly talked to me and when he got off work he went to a friends house and didn't even tell me I had to text him to find out. I'm fed up with the drinking, but I love him so much and I cry constantly, I just don't know what to do anymore

so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and we just had a baby a little over a month ago. he use to drink alot but has cut it down to once a week. he said me and him would start doing things together on the weekends and that was about 2 months ago and 2 weeks ago is when i finally got him to take me out. its like he doesnt want to spend anytime with me. i sit at home with the baby till its time for me to go back to work and he work monday thru friday. i do everything for the baby and he just holds him and feeds him maybe once if im lucky, he has only changed for diapers. he doesnt get up with him thru the nite at all i do his excuse is i work u dont and when i go back to work he said he still wont, and he said he doenst want me to go back to work just sit and home and take care of our baby, but me sitting at home isnt getting the bills payed. and today he has hardly talked to me and when he got off work he went to a friends house and didnt even tell me i had to text him to find out. im fed up with the drinking, but i love him so much and i cry constanly, i just dont kno what to do anymore


Something in your relationship has gone very wrong. Did he want this baby?

How old are you both?

If you are going to save the relationship you probably need to get counseling. If he is not coming home from work he doesn't want to come home after work. You need to stop crying "constantly" and talk to him. If every time he comes home you're crying he's probably happy not to come home.

You both need to talk to someone. If he won't, go alone.

You also need a break from 24/7 child care. Where is your family?

I'm 21 he is 23... he doenst no I cry I do it when he is gone. And the family works so they can't watch the baby

And the baby wasn't planned and it was a surprise for both of us. But after a few days of knowing I was pregnant he said it was what he wanted