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Michelle95
Sep 13, 2012, 02:31 AM
Loved me within a week, charming would do anything, had devious fake grin & stares observingly. He bragged about violence and outrageous incidents,  loved attention and outrageously lie to get it. His reputation is being unstable and aggressive. However, some, mainly women seem to think his lovely.
I noticed insecurities and fear of rejection. He mentioned he has a double side, and one day I will need a tracking device on his whereabouts. 

He was very intimate, at times invading my space and telling me what I think. Hated friends, family jealous of ex. However, he didn't want to stay more then a night. He'd be indoors on his computer. 

He had depressive isolating modes. Complaining of failure and worthlessness. He said his dad rejected him and psychically abused him. He told me his a frightened little boy underneath.

His desperate for a child. I fell pregnant. However,  I miscarried, same day he detached and went home to commit suicide. I had to go round there, again attention turned to him. 

Later he become detached. Less contact, mind games, aggressive if I  upset him. Call me names, threaten to burn my house down etc.

He had a fetish on restraining sexually. I went to pick up my stuff and he overpowered me sexually. After he had finished he was full of euphoria, he had overpowered me. He didn't think it was wrong, he see it as a game won.

Because he lost control he said he took a degrading picture of me so I have to succumb to his needs. 
Didn't care, said  I'm not coming back. Then he was obsessed to contact my daughter? I stopped this and got verbal abuse. He went to my dads pub parading a girl. I never responded.
Then he sees my friend asking about me. She told him to move on, his response was I can't, she's done my head in. He made lies and spoke about sexual things.
I angrily text stop the lies. In glory he replied he new it would get back to me and I would contact. He don't bug me directly but how can I lose him completely without instigating his rages. 

tickle
Sep 13, 2012, 02:47 AM
Once you show control, by getting a restraining order aganst him, and judging from how you describe him, it will scare him off. His type of personality is really quite easy to manage with a show of control. You are in the UK ?

Where did you ever meet a creep like this ?

Michelle95
Sep 13, 2012, 02:52 AM
Thank you with kindness for your response. Yes I live in the UK and I met him via a friend. She only knows the nice side of him.