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mama drama
Sep 10, 2012, 04:11 PM
I am in love with a guy who my parents hate and they didn't have a problem with him till he showed interest in me! I'm 25 and live with my parents for reasons I couldn't help I have a 3 year old and the guy is wonderful to the both of us! He also has a child! Well my parents try everything they can to make it so I don't see him. And tell me I'm being a bad mom by dating again and they just hear rumors about him all of which I know are not true and call him a whore and all this stuff but I'm in love with him and they say if I date him I choosing him over my family and maybe I should think about there feelings. But they don't care that I really like him I'm 25 do I still do what they ask so they don't hate me or be with him because he makes me very happy

Alty
Sep 10, 2012, 04:26 PM
My opinion is this. If you're an adult and want to do whatever you want to do, then be an adult. That means getting a job, getting your own place, paying for your own things.

If you live with your parents, then you're still a child and are subject to the rules they make for you.

I'm sure you won't want to hear this, but really, you have options. Move out, be self sufficient, then you can do whatever you want.

Homegirl 50
Sep 10, 2012, 04:32 PM
You are grown and you should be able to date who you want. You need to try and get your own place then you really can do what you want.
I'm sure they think they are looking out for your and their granddaughter's best interest, but to say you are choosing this guy over them is in my opinion, controlling. Sounds like this happens a lot.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 10, 2012, 06:14 PM
So you make plans, get a job, find your own place. If you go on a date, arrange a sitter who is not your parents.

If you live in their home, they can ( not correct) but can treat you like a child.

I wish
Sep 11, 2012, 12:36 PM
If you keep living at home, then you will keep on being under your parents control.

If money is the problem, then you need to go make some money so that you can be independent. Is the father paying any child support?

I know you want to get back into the dating scene, but now may not be the time for you. I suggsest that you get your life together before getting back into the dating scene.