I've been seeing a girl online for over a year. Soon after we started talking she was diagnosed with leukemia. I watched her get sick on cam but I know people fake these kinds of things. The only reason I am more concerned now is that the drama never stops. She has been so close to death for over a year and I recently made her send me pics so I could actually see for myself but the pics were very weird.

I had sent her hoodies in the mail that belong to me because she wanted something she could have of mine in the hospital. I guess to feel closer to me? In those pics she was wearing one of my hoodies. One time with oxygen and one time without and the hoodie was up so I couldn't see her hair, but she had eyelashes still but if you are going through chemo all day, everyday you shouldn't have any hair. None of this seems right. Her face still looked the same just without make up and she supposedly hasn't been able to eat real food for over a year.

I just need help or advice because I have accused her of it and as of right now she is not talking to me. This has cost me many hours and so many emotions. She is from Windsor, ON and I am from the US. I have looked up her phone number and it is actually from Windsor. I don't know what else to do. If you have any suggestions please feel free. I will obviously follow up on it.

For pity's sake! She is either honest or she isn't; how would we know? In all this time you have never thought to hop on a train, bus, plane, or car and go see her? You haven't called her at the hospital, through the main hospital number? There are so many ways to find out little facts about someone in a year.

I can't believe you accused her. What if she really is very sick? If you accuse a dying person, that's awful. What did you think the result would be? If she's telling the truth, she isn't going to want anything to do with you. If she's lying, same thing. If you have doubts you find out some other way.

Too late now - you are toast, Jack.

For pity's sake! She is either honest or she isn't; how would we know? In all this time you have never thought to hop on a train, bus, plane, or car and go see her? You haven't called her at the hospital, through the main hospital number? There are so many ways to find out little facts about someone in a year.

I can't believe you accused her. What if she really is very sick? If you accuse a dying person, that's awful. What did you think the result would be? If she's telling the truth, she isn't going to want anything to do with you. If she's lying, same thing. If you have doubts you find out some other way.

Too late now - you are toast, Jack.

Okay, I could seriously write a small novel of everything that has happened but I will try to shorten it up. Supposedly her mom was in there with her at one time and she went crazy. Blamed my girlfriend for everything that went wrong in her life but she also had the same writing style and spelling mistakes as my girlfriend. She was eventually kicked out of the hospital and could no longer tell me what was going on. So, since she was gone other "patients" began texting me from her phone to let me know how she was and again they have all had the same spelling mistakes. She wouldn't tell me what hospital she was at because she was afraid I would just come there unexpectedly. I few weeks ago she told me where she was finally. The other day she was threatening to take her own life so I called the hospital and told them what was going on and they redirected me to icu. I told them her name and what was going on and the reply I got was "Sorry, there is no one here by that name". What I was trying to figure out is if there was something I could do about this, maybe a website where I could find out certain information?

Okay, I could seriously write a small novel of everything that has happened but I will try to shorten it up. Supposedly her mom was in there with her at one time and she went crazy. Blamed my gf for everything that went wrong in her life but she also had the exact same writing style and spelling mistakes as my gf. She was eventually kicked out of the hospital and could no longer tell me what was going on. So, since she was gone other "patients" began texting me from her phone to let me know how she was and again they have all had the same spelling mistakes. She wouldn't tell me what hospital she was at because she was afraid I would just come there unexpectedly. I few weeks ago she told me where she was finally. The other day she was threatening to take her own life so I called the hospital and told them what was going on and they redirected me to icu. I told them her name and what was going on and the reply I got was "Sorry, there is no one here by that name". What I was trying to figure out is if there was something I could do about this, maybe a website where I could find out certain information?

"Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see."


You must be some desperate if you're still into this girl after all of this. Ever consider dating locally? Online is no place to be looking for relationships at your age.

"Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see."


You must be some desperate if you're still into this girl after all of this. Ever consider dating locally? Online is no place to be looking for relationships at your age.

I had no intention having an online girlfriend. I was against it at first but she wouldn't stop so I thought "if I don't take my chance someone else will". I have never had better conversations then I have had with this girl. I obviously made a mistake and I am regretting all of it. There's no need to make me feel like a bigger fool, I already know this.

I had no intention having an online girlfriend. I was against it at first but she wouldn't stop so I thought "if I don't take my chance someone else will". I have never had better conversations then I have had with this girl. I obviously made a mistake and I am regretting all of it. There's no need to make me feel like a bigger fool, I already know this.


Don't ever regret but learn instead. Just stop contacting her, move on and find someone new, someone better. There's plenty of girls out there.

I had no intention having an online girlfriend. I was against it at first but she wouldn't stop so I thought "if I don't take my chance someone else will". I have never had better conversations then I have had with this girl. I obviously made a mistake and I am regretting all of it. There's no need to make me feel like a bigger fool, I already know this.

Then continue on just for the free entertainment.

Then continue on just for the free entertainment.

Now that's a good idea!

Then continue on just for the free entertainment.

Unfortunately I am her source of entertainment with all the emotions I have wasted on this person. It is actually some sort of mental disorder called münchausen. You have no idea how much time I have invested into this person but it's obvious I am asking the wrong people for help or advise but honestly what else could I expect from an online forum let alone an internet relationship? I just wanted to see if I could bring this to light and warn other people about her because I am sure I'm not the first nor the last. Live and learn like you say.

How can we help? I know about Munchausen's, and you are probably right about that. I also know that the anonymity of the Internet turns nice people into something their real-life friends wouldn't recognize.

Where do you go from here?

It's real easy to block/delete people from chat apps.
You need to find another outlet, preferable with real life people.

Unfortunately I am her source of entertainment with all the emotions I have wasted on this person. It is actually some sort of mental disorder called münchausen. You have no idea how much time I have invested into this person but it's obvious I am asking the wrong people for help or advise but honestly what else could I expect from an online forum let alone an internet relationship? I just wanted to see if I could bring this to light and warn other people about her because I am sure I'm not the first nor the last. Live and learn like you say.


There you go again, with the negativity. We get you're mad but moaning and crying about how it was "wasted" isn't going to give you that year back.

A year really isn't a long time either, if you think it is, try telling that to the guy who came to us 2 months ago when his girlfriend of 7 years decided the relationship wasn't working anymore and left.

Stop focusing on the past and start gearing yourself for the future.

There you go again, with the negativity. We get you're mad but moaning and crying about how it was "wasted" isn't going to give you that year back.

A year really isn't a long time either, if you think it is, try telling that to the guy who came to us 2 months ago when his girlfriend of 7 years decided the relationship wasn't working anymore and left.

Stop focusing on the past and start gearing yourself for the future.

The past you are talking about was 2 days ago. It's going to take me a little while to get a grasp of things and come to terms with this. You can call it mourning in a sense because I lost someone I thought I knew. I am heartbroken. All you have been doing is insulting me this whole time and I understand why because I was dumb enough to even have an internet relationship. I know, very lame. I also understand that some people have it a lot worse then I do but the reason I am here is to maybe find certain websites that I could actually look for myself or just be pointed in the right direction to someone I could talk to about it. If you're going to keep saying rude things just delete your comments and block me, my problems don't have to be your problems.

How can we help? I know about Munchausen's, and you are probably right about that. I also know that the anonymity of the Internet turns nice people into something their real-life friends wouldn't recognize.

Where do you go from here?

I don't know. I have tried calling her house phone and cell. She hasn't been home supposedly since this all started so I don't know why it's still a working number... Seems like a waste of money. She also told me her mothers name and her step dads name so I have their number that I found online but no one has picked up. I only called once and the message was an older woman's voice so it may really be here mom. In Canada they don't give as much information online as they do in America so I don't really know what else to do. All I want is the truth and then I can go on with my life and put this behind me. As of right now I feel like I need a psychiatrist for myself lol

I would be tormented wondering if I had just accused a dying girl or not. I still think you went about this all wrong, despite adding more background here. So I would scrape together the pennies to hire a PI in Canada, who could find out in an hour.

I just had to come back and add this: I'm not sure you've ever been around someone who was dying. It's very common to leave phones, cars, subscriptions, memberships, and so on, as is, despite the expense. If you don't know why - think about it.
Anyway, will you let us know what you find out?

My mom has been dead for several years, her home telephone is still turned on in her name, I have never had the heart to disconnect it . ( Great discussion for another post about my issues)

In fact with the exception of a few pieces of furniture ,changed around, it is almost the same as the day she passed. We did give away all of her and dad's clothes.

It is hard to say what is true and what is not. But short of a trip up there to visit her or her family ( and it is not that costly) you will never really know

Fr_Chuck, what a touching sweet thing, leaving the phone on for 7 years!
Maybe mom will call her house when you are sitting there on the rearranged furniture, who knows.