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zxiaoyiz
Aug 30, 2012, 08:06 PM
Hi,

I and my boyfriend have been dating for 3months, and we only date two times! He never once date me, never once fetch me home and until now we haven't start to hold hands yet. He have 3 past relationship which he won't like that, but when he with me he is so difficult.

At first maybe he will shy or what, but already 3months. He done nothing action at all. Whenever we have group outing, we back home late. He won't send message me like whether I reach home anot or asked me go home safety some kind of this thing. Isn't a basic thing for couple? He did told me he is not a romantic guy and he won't express his feeling out too, but at least he must concern me right?

I did tried ask him out lots of times, he either say he not free or he don want to make it obvious because we working the same company. The whole company already knew we are dating.

During weekend, he also never sms me once! Always I am the one who doing that couple should do? Does he really give me too much freedom?

I told him before, not romantic I am fine just always be with me will do. He seems like don't understand or he pretend don understand. :(

Please advise me what should I do to help him and me ? T.T

Enigma1999
Aug 30, 2012, 08:45 PM
He might have another girl on the side... He's being discrete. He doesn't take you out. He seems to be MIA on the weekends. Plus, he's not affectionate.

Another girl, perhaps?

My advice is to move on. You're beating a dead horse. If you have to put that much effort in this relationship? Then is it really worth it? Nah

zxiaoyiz
Aug 30, 2012, 09:48 PM
To enigma

He also won't date a girl out unless is group outing he will. When we haven't together yet. He always date me out and concern me too, but after since we dating he totally changed. :(

He told me he prefer group outing den we alone. :(

Enigma1999
Aug 31, 2012, 06:43 AM
to enigma

he also won't date a girl out unless is group outing he will. When we haven't together yet. he always date me out and concern me too, but after since we dating he totally changed. :(

He told me he prefer group outing den we alone. :(

I think you two are a wrong fit. I think you should pull the plug in this relationship.

He seems very boring, and very "it's all about me". You seem young, and have plenty of time to find the right guy who is willing to be spontaneous and fun with you.

What about this guy are you attracted to? If it the fact that you are hoping he will change... he won't.

Homegirl 50
Aug 31, 2012, 09:08 AM
You two are just not right for each other. Walk away.

JudyKayTee
Aug 31, 2012, 09:14 AM
I don't understand what qualifies him to be the "boyfriend." He sounds, at best, like a casual acquaintance.

I think that's what he thinks the relationship is - does he think the OP is his girlfriend?

Enigma1999
Aug 31, 2012, 11:29 AM
I think that's what he thinks the relationship is - does he think the OP is his girlfriend?

He doesn't seem to act like he is. I just hope for her sake, that she is not sleeping with him...